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    Relationship I really hurt a friend with PTSD, and I could use some advice

    But this does feel like a special case! You're right, I do have problems with people pleasing. I've realized that about myself over the past year and I've been working through it, and recently I've felt like I was in a pretty good place about standing up for myself and not being a doormat. I...
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    Relationship I really hurt a friend with PTSD, and I could use some advice

    I guess it's hard for me to accept that because it doesn't feel like this wasn't some random thing that I never could have known would be stressful ahead of time. A trans woman - the type of person who traumatized her - expressing attraction to her seems like a pretty obvious potential stressor...
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    Relationship I really hurt a friend with PTSD, and I could use some advice

    I think you're right that trying to maintain the friendship. I'm drafting a message that I hope to send today or tomorrow just explaining that my feelings were pretty recent and not all that serious, and that our friendship means way more to me than my romantic feelings, and how at this point I...
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    Relationship I really hurt a friend with PTSD, and I could use some advice

    But the thing is, if I hadn't told her my feelings then it wouldn't have happened. In retrospect I really feel like I should have put more thought into her trauma before telling her. She told me that she thinks it's really selfish that I wasn't more careful about this, and I think she's right. I...
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    Relationship I really hurt a friend with PTSD, and I could use some advice

    tl;dr I accidentally really hurt my closest friend, a rape victim who has PTSD, by telling her that I had feelings for her. I want to do what I can to help her feel better and repair our friendship, but I don't know what the best thing for me to do for her is, and I could use help. Hi, I'm...
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