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    I Can't Stop Thing About My Childhood ..

    (((Grim))) I am glad you are good today. I too hope the feeling good lasts a long, long time:). I hope this post does not disturb you in any way. I was not sure whether to write it or not. I am so sorry to hear that you were abused by a person who was trusted to look after children. Your...
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    I Can't Stop Thing About My Childhood ..

    Hi (((Grim))), Hey you aren't going crazy at all. From what you say NOBODY could cope with the situation with your parents without some help and support. Your father having a stroke followed by what sounds like extremely irrational behaviour and your mother having medical tests must be...
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    I Can't Stop Thing About My Childhood ..

    Grim you need some support from your GP. Can you see another one in the practice if yours is useless? I think you have a lot to cope with looking after your elderly parents, without anyone to vent at, on top of your PTSD. Although I love her dearly, my mother drives me crackers in the most...
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    Warrington, Cheshire/ Lancashire England

    I live in Lancaster and I believe the nearest support to me is Chorley. My sufferer attends Audley Court in Telford once a year or so but it for combat veterans. We have no support locally, just an alcohol councillor from years ago who keeps seeing him every 4 months or so because there is...
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    Relationship Waiting

    May, thank you for your post and Nicolette for the reassurance and keeping my eyes wide open and head screwed on!! I like that! I identified with a lot of what you say May, probably because my partner was ex Falklands and had a terrible time there ...and worse when he got home. He didn't know...
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    Relationship Waiting

    I keep returning to this post for perspective and each time I can see I am 'getting there'. It is now 4 months since he 'moved out' and I fell apart. Like Mockingbird I cried millions of tears and was so desperate for a kind word or action to give me some hope (also, like a drug). I don't...
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    General Any Of You Carers Have Your Own Emotional Issues?

    Hadn't heard from my partner for a day or so and (unlike normal break ups where you would let it go and be bitter about it) began to wonder if he was alright. A quick phone call made me glad I still care and through this forum and reading, I understand why. He had got his medication in a mess...
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    General Any Of You Carers Have Your Own Emotional Issues?

    I think that goes for me too Nicolette. Thank you.
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    General Any Of You Carers Have Your Own Emotional Issues?

    I think there have been two sides to my past 14 years living with a PTSD sufferer. They have been the most wonderful and exciting, loving years of my life and the most damaging, lonely and frustrating. I think the latter has taken its toll. When I look back on the times I have been desperate...
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    General Any Of You Carers Have Your Own Emotional Issues?

    Can I join in (again) I haven't been on the forum for a few weeks as I have been trying so hard to deal with just getting on with life. I thought it would help. I was wrong. I am not ready to leave and need your support. Tonight the loneliness and frustration of my beloved partner who left...
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    Relationship Needing Space Versus Leaving

    I need to re-read the above posts in the morning when I am less tired but I do like the thread. As mentioned in other threads, my partner had chronic PTSD for 26 years. Through our 14 years together wanted to live with me but didn't want a 'relationship' with me. We never shaed a bed, just...
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    Relationship Waiting

    I keep coming back to this fantastic post too because I am also struggling with letting go. When my partner of 14 years left 7 weeks ago he said he couldn't handle a relationship. He has kept a key to my house to feed our cat while I am at work. He spends quite a lot of time at the house when...
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    General Why Do You Bother?

    This is such a good post for me today because my PTSD partner and I (who separated 7 weeks ago) spent a day working together. He has given up smoking today after smoking for 30 years so understandably we did not get off to a good start. Today he was harsh and bleak in his outlook towards me...
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    Relationship Should My Hubby Have A 'girl' Friend????

    Sunshine 71, my heart goes out to you. I was in a very similar position which unnecessarily spiralled out of control. The stress of PTSD accumulates. It was my tiredness from having to work to keep the show on the road. His daughter from another relationship not contacting him for 7 months...
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    Relationship Should My Hubby Have A 'girl' Friend????

    I empathise with you Sunshine 71. Good on you for standing up for yourself! It is awful to be in such a position and I totally agree with Nicolette, trust your gut. Your feelings were right, he was starting to get attached (or manipulated?). Bravo for dealing with it so quickly and definitely...
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    General Grief - The Loss Of The Good Of Times

    In desperation I looked back through old posts. Since December my partner did move out in March,. He had PTSD for 26 years and we were together for the last 14 of those. He has been gone 6 weeks. now. Too late I realised that while we were together during the last 2 years or so he was...
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    Relationship Carer's Anxiety

    Sorry you are feeling so overwhelmed and stressed. There is a lot of sound advice and help on here along the lines of looking after yourself first - you can't support anyone else if your own foundations are rocky. Build some strong support and be kind to yourself for a while. The advice on...
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    Relationship " I Love You, But I'm Not In Love With You."

    I read your posts sadiebabie with empathy. The relationship with my partner was always undermined by my gut feeling of 'you love me but you aren't in love with me'. We occasionally (over 14 years) talked about it. He said that he did not have those feelings for anybody and hoped he never...
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    Relationship He Still Calls Me "honey"...

    Thank you Sisu and May1321 for both your posts. I used to think I was the only one going an irrational combat PTSD relationship. We have been living apart for 1 month now. It is getting easier because he seems to need to contact me as much as I need to hear from him. He txts me, phones and...
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    Relationship How Do I Deal With The Passive Aggressive Behaviors?

    Thank you for your experience and knowledgeable advice May 1321 and Anthony. We met and had a productive and hopefully beneficial time tonight. I took on board the military aspect Anthony, the two parts of his personality now make sense to me. He says he wants to be the pre-military 'soft'...
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    Relationship How Do I Deal With The Passive Aggressive Behaviors?

    Cthulhu your post made me see another point of view very different to my own, thank you. I think it started when I went to visit my daughter for 4 days. When I came home he had fallen apart somehow and wouldn't talk about it, saying it didn't matter. I felt terrible and tried to put things...
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    Relationship How Do I Deal With The Passive Aggressive Behaviors?

    I wish I could put some positive feedback here but instead I would like to put my experience as a warning of where it can go. Looking back my relationship was tokenly loving but mainly controlling/isolating. If I did something to make me happy he would throw in a 'knock me down' comment like...
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    General Carers Co-Dependency Information

    I agree with that ISH and have found it to be true of my own situation. I wrote about 3 weeks ago about desperately wanting my co-dependant relationship back. I have now had 19 days on my own. I thought it would be awful. I honestly have not felt so bad as the day he left with his...
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    Relationship Big Shock Tonight

    Thank you for your help Jawn. Very much appreciated on a nightmare day and valued as you, yourself have been in a similar situation. Yesterday was the worst day. It is the most difficult thing I have ever been through in my life. If it hadn't been for reading similar posts and advice on...
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    Relationship Big Shock Tonight

    Can I share this with you all and ask for any advice you can give me please? My relationship has now completely baffled me and broken down I think.... because my lovely partner finally left today. He actually took all his things from our home over last night and this morning. He has combat...
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