What does it mean when a therapist tells you that you abandon yourself?
I don’t think so? She says that she doesn’t think that I’m afraid of her (that’s transference stuff). However, I’m afraid of my own fear. I do become codependent, which is why we have our boundaries as they are to begin with. She wants me to believe that I can handle and face bad emotions and survive. My go to is dissociation, so there is that. I may even go as far as shielding myself entirely from things, but is that what she even means?Scared of her seems significant.
First thought I had was codependency/ not paying enough attention to yourself and needs and if related to boundaries. To set boundaries you really have to show up with your true authentic self. Are you hiding from self?
Yes is she also telling you that since she has known you, you have done that?She wants me to believe that I can handle and face bad emotions and survive
Sounds like beginning to manage “learned helplessness” coupled with abandonment issues. IE instead of giving up, or falling apart, without outside direction/approval/support? Both learning your own capabilities as you are and learning how those capabilities improve over time and with experience. Be the person you want to rescue you.We were talking about boundaries. How we have outside and internal boundaries. I think this may be about trust. Trusting myself. Trusting that I can handle things? I tend to ask for extra appointments or reach out to her for help between sessions. We have been shifting away from that. However, if I slip up, I become really scared of her.