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I'm sorry if im not in the right place, but i honestly just need people to talk to who have more experience with ptsd then i do.... (IM SORRY THIS POST IS ALSO VERY LONG)
I have anxiety, panic attacks, and i also suffer from stress induced seizures. I met my bf at the start of the new year. I'm not sure if i can even call him that anymore ..but he has combat ptsd.
To me our relationship is beautiful! I really thought and still feel like he's the one, but when he has an "episode" (im so sorry i really dont know what to call it). I don't know how to help him! I've tried researching in every way I could and i still feel like im at square one. When something happens with him i quickly tell him i need a break, because i dont want to make things worse based on the fact that i have no idea what I'm doing. I always tell him "I'll be back babe im not going anywhere." I always check in on him and the break usually last no more than 4-days to a week max.
My bf went on vacation last month for 3 weeks. We talked everyday and i felt so much love and couldn't wait to see him again! At the near end from his trip I asked if I would be coming home with him to spend time together. I don't know why i asked this or why i had to clarify ..after all we had planned to go home together, we had also planned to get a nice room and spend quality time together. We also planned to go to therapy together .....the appointment was set and i was thrilled because I might get the help i need to survive this thing.
Welp, Memorial Day rolls around and its like he forgot about everything! He tells me he wants us to go home together but that he would need to spend time with his battle buddy as his battle buddy may have a chip on his should re! This immediately hurt me and pissed me off at the same time! My selfish ass was over here thinking how could you put off everything we planned for your battle buddy?! So i asked for another break. I knew i was building resentment in our relationship based on how his battle buddies feel about me ..so i needed to take a step back. Only this time i didnt get to say I'll be back ..he never even responded.
My anxiety went in to high mode and i started texting and panicking like crazy. Days later he eventually responded saying he didn't respond based on memorial day. I told him i needed to talk to him but he went right back to ignoring me. Usually when i take a break, I don't overtext. i don't do any of that. I allow us to both have our needed space ...him to heal..and me to feel and learn im not the problem. But this time it feels different i feel like i lost him.
I haven't heard from him in a week, then I found out through Facebook that he was also mourning for a friend who died in combat a few days after memorial day. He didn't even tell me this. If he had told me i would have understood he needed time and i would have properly and respectfully given him his space. I had to freaking find out through Facebook and google ... instead of saying i need to spend time with my battle buddy or he might have a chip on his shoulder, why couldn't he just explain ?!!!!!
I still haven't heard from him...i miss him and i feel like he's not coming back. What can i do to at least get him to talk to me ? How can we work on things like this together ?
Ugh it should say i need help so emotional cant even spell correctly
I apologise !
I have anxiety, panic attacks, and i also suffer from stress induced seizures. I met my bf at the start of the new year. I'm not sure if i can even call him that anymore ..but he has combat ptsd.
To me our relationship is beautiful! I really thought and still feel like he's the one, but when he has an "episode" (im so sorry i really dont know what to call it). I don't know how to help him! I've tried researching in every way I could and i still feel like im at square one. When something happens with him i quickly tell him i need a break, because i dont want to make things worse based on the fact that i have no idea what I'm doing. I always tell him "I'll be back babe im not going anywhere." I always check in on him and the break usually last no more than 4-days to a week max.
My bf went on vacation last month for 3 weeks. We talked everyday and i felt so much love and couldn't wait to see him again! At the near end from his trip I asked if I would be coming home with him to spend time together. I don't know why i asked this or why i had to clarify ..after all we had planned to go home together, we had also planned to get a nice room and spend quality time together. We also planned to go to therapy together .....the appointment was set and i was thrilled because I might get the help i need to survive this thing.
Welp, Memorial Day rolls around and its like he forgot about everything! He tells me he wants us to go home together but that he would need to spend time with his battle buddy as his battle buddy may have a chip on his should re! This immediately hurt me and pissed me off at the same time! My selfish ass was over here thinking how could you put off everything we planned for your battle buddy?! So i asked for another break. I knew i was building resentment in our relationship based on how his battle buddies feel about me ..so i needed to take a step back. Only this time i didnt get to say I'll be back ..he never even responded.
My anxiety went in to high mode and i started texting and panicking like crazy. Days later he eventually responded saying he didn't respond based on memorial day. I told him i needed to talk to him but he went right back to ignoring me. Usually when i take a break, I don't overtext. i don't do any of that. I allow us to both have our needed space ...him to heal..and me to feel and learn im not the problem. But this time it feels different i feel like i lost him.
I haven't heard from him in a week, then I found out through Facebook that he was also mourning for a friend who died in combat a few days after memorial day. He didn't even tell me this. If he had told me i would have understood he needed time and i would have properly and respectfully given him his space. I had to freaking find out through Facebook and google ... instead of saying i need to spend time with my battle buddy or he might have a chip on his shoulder, why couldn't he just explain ?!!!!!
I still haven't heard from him...i miss him and i feel like he's not coming back. What can i do to at least get him to talk to me ? How can we work on things like this together ?
Ugh it should say i need help so emotional cant even spell correctly
I apologise !
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