I started reading in the spouses chat just out of curiousity and found that my marriage is/has gone through very similar things. I am the spouse w/PTSD and reading the posts in here has given me such an understanding and an eye opening view of what I am/have put my husband through. I have a had a rough week and I just said to him last night, can we just date, I dont want to be affecionate anymore, I need you to back off, lets just date. And to hear others have/are going through this, I realize that YES, my PTSD is affecting my marriage. Wow! I did not realize this, as elementary as it sounds. Reading the posts brought my actions to reality. Seeing my actions from a different perspective has opened my eyes. I told my dh about this section of the forum and encouraged him to come here and vent and get support when I am having difficulty controlling my PTSD. I hope he comes here and is able to vent. Thank you all for sharing your hearts and lives!