anthony
Founder
Lets bust open the facts about having an orgasm when being sexually abused. There is no one reason to this question, and in fact is most likely you fit several of the reasons as to why it happens. The below list is far from exhaustive.
Lets look at the biggest reason people keep this a secret. Either they believe, or their abuser reinforces, "you must have liked it because you orgasmed." I won't deny that there can be some truth within that statement / thought, however; there is nothing to be ashamed of for what is a normal human bodily act.
Dead Link Removed happen predominantly to males, than females, as a males stimulus is more physiological (touch) than females, which often requires emotion combined with physicality. To put it within perspective, roughly 4 in 5 males will orgasm during sexual abuse compared to 1 in 5 females.
So lets get to the majority of reasons why the body orgasms.
Within those points above there are further points as to why an orgasm occurs during rape. There are questions that may hurt to answer honestly. It is unlikely that its any one aspect for why a person orgasms during rape, and more likely that various factors are at play for that individual.
What you should take away from this article is that keeping it a secret only continues to hurt you through fear and anxiety, and that the act of climax during sexual abuse does not mean you liked the act of rape, or your rapist. It just means you're human and that many factors were at play during the event.
Lets look at the biggest reason people keep this a secret. Either they believe, or their abuser reinforces, "you must have liked it because you orgasmed." I won't deny that there can be some truth within that statement / thought, however; there is nothing to be ashamed of for what is a normal human bodily act.
Dead Link Removed happen predominantly to males, than females, as a males stimulus is more physiological (touch) than females, which often requires emotion combined with physicality. To put it within perspective, roughly 4 in 5 males will orgasm during sexual abuse compared to 1 in 5 females.
So lets get to the majority of reasons why the body orgasms.
- Physiology - mind and body create chemicals, push blood to our erogenous zones, stimulate us even if we don't want to be stimulated. Ever just felt horny with no real stimulus around you? We have very little control over this. Some women orgasm lots, some don't. Men will orgasm faster than women due to stimulus zones. Women often need oral / self stimulation prior to penetration for orgasm, where males don't. Anal stimulation will often cause both sexes to orgasm faster. There are some men and women who can literally orgasm on demand, as they deem fit.
- Evolution - society has been civilised far less than we have been cave man. The hunter / gatherer, domination of men over women and such history. It would be tough to meet a woman who hasn't had a rape fantasy (without regard for the obvious control of choice between the two acts). Does our heritage still play some unconscious role within being dominated by another during a sexual act? Enjoyment? A poll asked a US college audience of young women whether they would orgasm if raped by a good looking guy. The answer was a majority yes, even though they found the act of rape traumatic, they still had a primal instinct for domination by an attractive rapist as possibly enjoyable enough to orgasm.
- Time - given enough time for stimulation (foreplay), the body will orgasm. A person raped where time is not an issue, can often be stimulated to orgasm.
Within those points above there are further points as to why an orgasm occurs during rape. There are questions that may hurt to answer honestly. It is unlikely that its any one aspect for why a person orgasms during rape, and more likely that various factors are at play for that individual.
What you should take away from this article is that keeping it a secret only continues to hurt you through fear and anxiety, and that the act of climax during sexual abuse does not mean you liked the act of rape, or your rapist. It just means you're human and that many factors were at play during the event.