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Another friend died

Discussion in 'Death' started by SpiritSong, Apr 7, 2018.

  1. SpiritSong

    SpiritSong myptsd.com depend$ upon YOU!!! Premium Member Sponsor $100+

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    Another friend died

    This makes 2 friends that died recently here and another is in the hospital and is in very serious condition, the girlfriend of the one who most recently died. I feel like my friends are dropping like flies. Their health conditions were/ are so fragile. That is what happens to us when we get old.

    I have not really cried since my father died, in 2011. I don't cry very often and when I do it is messy and loud. So I tend to hold it in even though I want to let it go.

    This friend who died this week, his health was really so bad that we knew he was going to go really soon these last few months. In fact, we did not know who would go first, his girlfriend or him. It was so serious for both of them.

    Every once in awhile I keep thinking *I* could be next. (I'm not suicidal or anything, in fact I feel fine. It is just this thought that comes to me now and then, that I have no control over when I will die; none of us do)!
     
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  3. somerandomguy

    somerandomguy Learning how to be myself Premium Member Donated

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  5. SpiritSong

    SpiritSong myptsd.com depend$ upon YOU!!! Premium Member Sponsor $100+

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    Thanks folks.
     
  6. berlinda

    berlinda On the way to find out :-) Premium Member Sponsor $100+

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    I'm so sorry to hear it X
     
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  7. Freida

    Freida Been There, Done That, Lived to Tell the Story Premium Member

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    I'm so sorry -- it is so hard to lose your friends....
     
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  8. Ronin

    Ronin Dark Wings Premium Member

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    Thoughts and prayers with you, and them.
     
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  9. KwanYingirl

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    I’m sorry for your loss. Grief is hard but proves the capacity we have for love.
     
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  10. hodge

    hodge I'm a VIP Premium Member Donated

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    I'm so sorry, @SpiritSong. I've lost three good friends to brain cancer in the last 10 years. The oldest, who just left us last August, was only in her early 60s. The other two were quite a bit younger. It's just awful, but paraphrasing what @KwanYingirl said, it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved. We will always have the memories. Cold comfort, I know.
     
  11. EveHarrington

    EveHarrington _______ in progress. Premium Member

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    Hugs
     
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  12. mumstheword

    mumstheword I'm a VIP Premium Member Donated

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    My thoughts are with you. Losing people is really hard, I find. I lost a friend recently and I think about him constantly. Be super kind and gentle with yourself. Grief is exhausting and extra self care is often necessary at such times, IMO. Condolences.
     
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  13. SpiritSong

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    Thanks. I have been getting more sleep, which helps, I think.
     
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