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Other Anxiety and emotional stress from a rhinoplasty surgery 7 years ago

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I don't really know where or who else to ask for help. I am due to begin cbt very soon, which although I'm hopeful will be of some help, I'm not sure that it can fully alleviate things. It may be that I will also need to speak with a psychologist after receiving the therapy.

I've had a long term depression and anxiety which resulted from a badly performed rhinoplasty I underwent abroad at the age of 18. I am now 25 years old.

Although I went in feeling quite unhappy and insecure with the size of my original nose, I came out feeling more upset in a different way; with an asymmetrical, deformed shape nose, which brought a host of psychological complications.

I was not really prepared for the psychological and emotional impact it would have, as I had no concept before of feeling this way, until after it had happened.

I think a key factor for it having had such an impact is that I am quite a visual person. I like art, and pay attention to details, as well as being highly sensitive. I get very bothered when I see that its not straight, my mind is locked onto it and I find myself constantly responding to it and being stuck in a state of distress.

This occurs for most hours during the day and I can't relax or break away enough to properly get things done or to make clear decisions. I've been stuck this way ever since and feel that my spirit has been depleted.

I am most concerned that is altering my life from taking its natural path, has consumed many years and ultimately stopping me from living truly to myself.

To avoid making my entry very long I will write some keyword symptoms in a list from what I've been experiencing over the last seven years.

Stunted personal development, stunted social development, struggle to be independent, holding back true personality and behaviour, obscured sense of self identity, isolation for 6 years, difficulty in relationships, state of denial, tearful everyday, fallen behind, life on hold.

I've seen some specialist rhinoplasty surgeons in London. They have suggested a revision rhinoplasty to make it more natural and straight, costing between £5000-£8000. However, there are risks and I would not be mentally strong enough for a further disappointing result.

I wonder if there is anyone who can relate in any way to my case, or have any advice for what could help. I would be extremely grateful for anything that could help.
 
CBT sounds like a great plan. It sounds like your head is spinning about this issue and could use a b...

Thank you very much. I am hopeful it's a good start place at least now to break out of it.

I would highly recommend checking out NAMI.

We’re focused on a single disorder, here, but NAMI covers...

Thank you for sharing the link to NAMI. I will be really interested to take a look, thank you.
 
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I'm not saying you have this as diagnoses need to come from professionals but it may be worth looking at therapists or websites that deal with Body Dysmorphic Disorder. If you are in the UK then there is a telly documentary that is presently doing the rounds that may be interesting for you to watch.
 
Thank you for your message. I've been considering that too. I think primarily, I get bothered by the bottom middle part of my nose that isn't attached properly and it hangs down and the sides of nose were cut away, which distorts the middle third of my face. I have difficulty in identifying with the changed look of my face overall. I suppose then it does relate to a distorted self-identity that's felt with Body Dysmorphic Disorder, but here, more as a secondary effect. I'll take a look at that documentary, and further into it, thank you.
 
Could you look into sueing for disfiguration?
I would spend the money for a new surgery. If this is a complete loss of life, what is the cost of your life?
I would talk with a lawyer or just save and get it redone.
I would then suggest body/appearance acceptance therapy.
 
Thank you so much, Scarlet! That is exactly how I feel about it. I'm glad to hear from someone else.
I've looked into talking with solicitors but it could be difficult because it was done abroad in Hungary.
I'm definitely going to start saving, and consider to get it redone in the UK. I think it will be the quickest route, I should have done a while ago. And the therapy could help a lot with the psychological aspect.
Hopefully, I could be referred to this type of therapist. Knowing which order to do things is difficult.
 
I would not feel bad about wanting to get it corrected. This is not shallow if others have pointed that out.
Though I would at the same time work on body acceptance.
I had my lazy eye corrected and it changed my life making me feel more confident talking to people and making eye contact.
However, my eye is not perfect and I do still wear thick glasses at times and I am working on owning this and calling it beautiful.
 
Thanks a lot, your comment has been reassuring. Sorry for my late reply, I hadn't checked in here for a while. A large part of overcoming the anxiety will be body acceptance, at least at the starting place, is maybe best.
Its so good to hear about how the correction for your lazy eye had such a positive impact on your confidence :) I do believe that when some things are done for the right reasons, they can really improve our confidence, if they mean a lot to us.
- It's when we can be kind to ourselves, enough to allow ourselves some freedom to relax and try not to feel too serious on the inside, which can be difficult sometimes, and to laugh, express and let our personalities show, (especially if we're a warm and kind person, its such a waste not to), then that's really what is beautiful.
 
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