Anyone Engaged In Sex & Love Addicts/anoretics To Help Work Through Avoidance?

[NatBird]

I ask because I engaed with the program for a while. It helped me to conceptualise and name to social, emotional and sexual deprivation processes I've been engaging in, painful painful stuff, and started to help me change.
I'm considering re engaging. I left because I was finding it shaming and re traumatising at times and I didnt have professional support in place.
I'm wondering if there's anyone else with PTSD that has engaged in this work? If so, what was your experience?

 

[NatBird]

Please excuse words missing and typos:)

 

[Crow]

I went to ssa for a year. There were a couple of predators that came in the last month and it got too triggering. It was the only women's group in the city and I didn't feel comfortable at the other meetings. Going really helped me identify and deal with acting out behaviours. Probably would never go back though.

 

[NatBird]

I went to ssa for a year. There were a couple of predators that came in the last month and it got t...

@CrowFeather Sorry to hear about the predators.
I don't have much experience with SAA apart from attending a few meetings. Don't know how it is US, SAA and SLAA are quite different in emphasis and feel here. Thanks for responding. I also think program was useful but really in two minds about going back.

 

[awaken1]

I've found the group very supportive in creating space for me to let go of old ways that don't serve me. A breakthrough I got in group was that people don't hate or want to kill me. But that doesn't mean they want to be around me--I think I still have an overwhelming/overwhelmed aura to me. But it is a long road. If it was traumatizing me I wouldn't return.

 

[sedna]

I think the meetings here are really different than they would be in the UK. I had to go to some because I was working on a thesis for a class I was taking and that was part of it. It's always fun to see the looks on peoples faces when you say you're "just doing research " .

In a large area I went to about ten. They were not something I'd do for myself, although technically I fit the criteria because I can go years at a time without any interest in sex or intimacy. Most that I went to were full of recovering drug or alcohol addicts that had gotten into bad sex habits as a replacement. I didnt see any anorectics, but every area is different.

I fall into the anorectic category. I dont like relationships, most of the times I've pushed myself to have short flings to feel normal, I felt like it was something to keep people from asking me why I dont have a relationship. I thought it made me look more normal.

I think if they're positive there, and you felt like its something that could help you with managing the concepts of sex and relationships, you should definitely give it another try. The flings I got into were never healthy, I havent learned how to create that yet. This place might help you avoid mistakes like mine.

 

[NatBird]

@coco9
Yes it was useful as engaging helped me to clearly see the rescuing, avoiding vulnerability etc. as a strategy of deprivation and what has been driving that machine. Just skeptical felt at the time it was more harmful to have people not skilled in dealing with trauma, specifically cptsd (sponsers) guiding me.

Perhaps I'll re engage post EMDR, if I go ahead with that!

Thanks for sharing;)