Argh

[Casey_03]

I posted before about this -- unwanted house guest, invited by my roommate. I didn't have much say, was told she'd be here for two days, then she informed me upon moving in she'd be here for two weeks. I have tried so so hard to be polite, because my roommate came back and I assumed it'd be less annoying if he was at least here to keep her quiet. Wrong wrong wrong. Now she is in the kitchen even more than she was before, constantly banging pots and pans around and using all of the pots we have so that I can't cook when I need to. For the past hour I have been listening to the sounds of plates violently crashing against one another and silverware banging - no clue what she was doing, but it sounds like she is intentionally trying to be loud. Worse yet, now that there are two of them, there's a shortage of keys, which means that I cannot simply leave the house whenever I want to if she is still at home -- because then if she leaves, she can't lock the door and our front door will be left open. What in the hell is wrong with these people?!?! I talked to my roommate and tried to very calmly explain my position. I said "Listen, i'm trying really hard to be polite, but you understand I'm heavily pregnant here, so my hearing is more sensitive and she is literally driving me crazy with all this constant noise." I expected at least a semi understanding response. Instead I got attitude, and just "okay." I am beside myself with rage right now and literally shaking -- I finally stood up for myself and it didn't help things at all. This is ridiculous.

 

[Friday]

:sneaky:

Time to play the crazy pregnant card.

GET OUT!!! GET OUT OF MY HOUSE RIGHT NOW!!! OUT OUT OUT OUT OUT!!! GEEEEEEET OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOUUUUUUUUUUUUUUT!

Chase her around while she packs up her stuff, get her solidly OUT of your lives, collapse on the couch in a giggle, then quick phone your related contacts and explain;

"OMG, I feel so bad! We had a houseguest -Annoyance McWorstHouseGuestEver- who was only supposed to be here 2 days who has been here for weeks, and I'm 8 months pregnant she's crashing around bang-clang-bang, and I just snapped. I mean, I'm glad she's gone, who does that??? Say 2 days and 2 weeks later still hasn't left??? But I just wish I hadn't had to scream at her to get out for her to leave."

((One better would be to whisper to your housemate "You've tried to get her out, yes? Yes. Okay. I'm going to handle this, then. Get the popcorn. But don't be too obvious about it." Just so that he's onside before you start the opera.))

:sneaky:

 

[nursenurse]

GET OUT!!! GET OUT OF MY HOUSE RIGHT NOW!!! OUT OUT OUT OUT OUT!!! GEEEEEEET OOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOUUUUUUUUUUUUUUT!

She can take your roomie with her.

 

[Casey_03]

@FridayJones I came very close to doing this last night, and in fact am still holding back. But lo and behold now every time I start to get riled up about this my stomach ulcer flares up and I double over in pain. I think at this point, if the diplomatic way didn't work, going nuclear on her is probably going to cause me more harm than anything else, unfortunately. Though I agree that it would make for an interesting scene. It seems my roommate is equally annoyed with her presence but too passive to do anything about it. That, or he secretly has a crush on this girl and doesn't want to offend her. This will be his last month here. I can't tolerate this shit going forward. It is beyond me how a person can be so incredibly inconsiderate. I have to admit, I am now at the point where when I walk past her plate of food and tea she's left out while she's in the bathroom, i'm more than just a little tempted to just toss it all in the trash. And to start throwing her stuff out the window.

 

[nursenurse]

I am always suspicious. I think you may be spot on as far as him liking her goes, and he may in fact have intended on moving her in all along. Whatever, it doesn't change the fact that both of them are inconsiderate louts. Maybe you holding everything in is what is causing the pain....I would feel a certain satisfaction on showing them both the door disgracefully. Show your baby at an early stage that Mama doesn't take shizznit from anyone.

 

[Casey_03]

@nursenurse No, it is precisely when I confronted the roommate and said we should throw her out that the ulcer got worse. I mean, I'm making it very clear I don't want her here, i'm not really holding anything in at this point. I've told her repeatedly that she is in my way, that she needs to be quiet, that I don't want her in the kitchen. She always says "oh, sorry" but then continues to be in the way. This morning she began using her hair dryer at a ridiculously early hour. Maybe it's just me, but I know that if i am staying with someone for free (and I have when I was younger), I make a point to be unseen and unheard, and I'd make myself uncomfortable before making the homeowner feel discomfort. That means she should be giving up her own little luxuries like blowdrying her hair at 6 am and refraining from using our kitchen constantly for baking and cooking. She can do that crap when she finds her own place. I don't think he intended to move her in, because he himself is due to move out next month, so it'd be a bit pointless. But maybe he just figured since he's moving out soon he could get away with being inconsiderate. Hard to tell. A large part of the annoyance is also I think just me being pregnant and territorial -- seeing a random girl taking over my kitchen and acting like she owns the place just makes me want to slap her in the face and tell her this is my home and she's not welcome here. I suppose that's a bit over the top. I am trying to make sure I can differentiate between what emotions are just hormonal, and which ones are completely valid in this situation. I think so far I have managed to be very diplomatic and calm about this. I am trying to keep my blood pressure down now and my ulcer from acting up. Sorry, I guess I am just venting now. Thanks for listening though. It does make me feel a bit better to know everyone on here agrees with me that this situation is out of hand.