Avoidance due to hyper vigilance / success!

[Maximus]

I have been working so hard on hyper-vigilante behavior. Someone said something to me and right away I started questioning a hidden meaning in their comment. I grew very anxious mulling over the hidden meaning and I was going over and over it in my mind. Finally, I said stop it out loud. I recognized what was happening. I started reframing the words and before long my heart rate and anxiety subsided. This is the first time I have been able to stop disregulation.
I saw this person and was free inside and realized there was no ulterior motive. All part of Cptsd. Next time I will remember this time and build on it.

 

[arfie]

i'm throwing you a ticker tape parade, maximus. i hope you are giving yourself a treat for positive affirmation. i find that taking the time to celebrate a success helps me remember to build on it.

congratulations. well done, my healing warrior

 

[Freddyt]

I started questioning a hidden meaning in their comment. I grew very anxious mulling over the hidden meaning

PTSD lying to you for a start. Because of how we process input after trauma, we are looking to survive things rather than understand them. Pause. Think critically. Was it really threatening or did you read that into it?

Which is what you did. Well done.

 

[Maximus]

i'm throwing you a ticker tape parade, maximus. i hope you are giving yourself a treat for positive affirmation. i find that taking the time to celebrate a success helps me remember to build on it.

congratulations. well done, my healing warrior

I love the name healing warrior! It has been a huge battle and this a great step for me who usually succumbs to anxiety and then depression. I am learning to trust my perceptions and obsessing less and less. Thank yo,Arf!

 

[Tinyflame]

Congratulations @Maximus ! I fight a similar battle with hypervigilance/ safety, and also shame/despair/ avoidance. I too today said Stop to my mind and thought remember only the positive, which for some reason I never think of, and just do the best I can. And for some reason it worked.

That is a great realization for you! 🙂

 

[Maximus]

Congratulations @Maximus ! I fight a similar battle with hypervigilance/ safety, and also shame/despair/ avoidance. I too today said Stop to my mind and thought remember only the positive, which for some reason I never think of, and just do the best I can. And for some reason it worked.

That is a great realization for you! 🙂

Congratulations to you,also. It is a turn around for sure. I hope I can remember this next time it happens. Keep up with this successful turn of events!

PTSD lying to you for a start. Because of how we process input after trauma, we are looking to survive things rather than understand them. Pause. Think critically. Was it really threatening or did you read that into it?

Which is what you did. Well done.

Thanks!

 

[Tinyflame]

Thank you @Maximus , it feels good eh? 🙂 And surprising!

I was thinking, such things bring comfort to the soul. Which maybe on average we have had less of (just speaking for myself anyway), but I dare say we really appreciate the peace of it more.

I think like @Freddyt said (paraphrasing), it's living with more truth and believing less lies (even if they are originating from our own perception or experiences and self talk/fear).