NeedingSolomon
New Here
First I am a new member & I am very grateful I came across this site. It's extremely informative & everyone is very supportive!! My situation is similar to others I have read but the timeframe is shorter & I am hoping to get some clarity based on other's experiences. I met my vet online a year ago; we live in the same city. We talked for about two months, but we just couldn't seem to arrange a meeting. However, our conversations were amazing. We discovered we have so much in common & there was a strong intellectual & physical attraction. During our conversations, he told me about his combat injuries & that he has PTSD. He also told me he had a bitter divorce when he returned from his final deployment. Then, after about 2 months of texting nearly every day, he stopped contacting me. It hurt, but I assumed he had drifted off because we had not been able to get together so I moved on. Eight months later, he contacts me & says he's been thinking about me during that time & wanted to resume our friendship. We began texting & our chemistry was still intact as if no time had passed. We finally got together & spent 5 hours talking about everything under the sun. We also engaged in some light making out and altogether, it was a really great evening. When I left, he seemed very happy. After that, he texted me for the next three weeks, but his texts were different. No longer funny or flirty or intellectual, they were now either angry (not at me) or chaotic or just odd. Sometimes his texts would be chatty but aloof. Sometimes, it seemed as if he had been drinking. He did not suggest meeting again & kept saying how busy he was. He then told me he was planning to make me a present, he had ordered the materials for it, & he was waiting for them to arrive. A few days later, he sends me a little video he made about a project he was working on & ended it with a sexual innuendo. Then after a few more days of light, chatty texts, nothing. I haven't heard from him in about 2 weeks. I sent him a quick text to check in but he hasn't answered. He told me during our conversations that he wants to trust somebody and he feels a deep connection to me, but he also has also stated he is too damaged and 'too far gone' in his words. I don't know what to make of this. Is this PTSD-related isolation because he thinks I got too close? Or is he simply not interested in me after we met? If this is the case, why did he continue texting me for nearly a month afterward? If he is interested, why didn’t he initiate another meeting? Why would he get back in touch after 8 months, just to disappear again without a word in a few weeks? I am baffled. Any thoughts or insights will be most appreciated.