My boyfriend is an Iraqi Vet and shows symptoms of PTSD. However, he has not been properly diagnosed because he doesn’t think he has PTSD and because he thinks that it would make him “less of a Marine”. After reading through some posts and doing multiple searches online, I've come to an understanding that he needs to be the one to take that initiative and get help. Although, I really wish there was some way I can tell him that he needs to get help without upsetting him. Here’s the thing, I know that I have to give him space when he either asks for it directly or when he just completely shuts me out. What I don’t understand and what I don’t know how to deal with, is when I do give him the space he needs, why he freak out on me afterwards? There have been several occasions where he tells me that he just wants to be left alone and I leave him be. He always calls me when he’s ready, but it always starts the same way. He’s upset with me because I didn’t call him and then accuses me of ignoring, avoiding, and/or cheating on him. I’m constantly reassuring him, but I’m not sure if that’s what I should be doing? I don’t bother him when he asks me not to bother him, but then he gets upset that I don’t bother him? Is this normal? What do I do? I’m honestly a little confused. I love him dearly and am trying to be as patient as possible, but this really hurts. I know I shouldn’t take it personal, but it can be frustrating. Any advice would be much appreciated.