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Message: <blockquote data-quote="RussellSue" data-source="post: 1705261" data-attributes="member: 45309">I have cPTSD and generalized anxiety disorder. My husband also has generalized anxiety. I think we were drawn to one another because of shared levels of perfectionism brought on by that anxiety but we have some significant problem areas.For one thing, we struggle to shop together. Grocery stores are out completely as are most large stores because we both freak out in stores, cannot effectively communicate and just end up highly agitated. Occasionally we'll have a reasonable shopping experience but these days we try hard to avoid it. We can also get really ugly on home improvement projects. The control freak comes out in each of us and we are far better off working on separate projects away from one another.I have moments where I don't know how we live together and they sometimes feel like they last forever. But most of the time, we find ways to cope and compromise and I think things are better than average for us in real life because the empathy we have for each other's conditions when we aren't in crisis mode is pretty astounding. That doesn't mean the rough patches are not rough, though. They can be pretty hard to handle.I imagine that having a physical separation during rough times would be very hard to manage. I am sorry you are going through that. I hope you are able to find a way to feel at peace with the situation.</blockquote>