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Message: <blockquote data-quote="Friday" data-source="post: 1705271" data-attributes="member: 27208">Not presently, as I’m not in a relationship at the moment, but most of the time the people that I date / have dated share my brand of crazy. My exHusabnd did not.The nicest thing about that -for me- is that it removes that issue from the relationship almost completely. When almost everyone in your life has the same shit going on? It’s not about WHAT is going on, but HOW they deal with it, and WHO they are. I really never realized that benefit until I came here and have watched countless supporters gutting themselves over behaviors, personalities, etc. that they excused/sacrificed for “because” it was PTSD. <chuckling> One of my all time favorite quotes is “Dude. He has PTSD. Not an alien-brain-sucker!” Cha. Exactly that. We’re still all of us “us” & we’re responsible for our own behavior. Just because I’ve been hit with a rage-storm, or haven’t slept -or slept well- in days, or my anxiety is through the roof, etc.? Isn’t carte blanche to be an asshole. If I’m being an asshole? That’s on me. The next person with PTSD you meet may have all the same symptoms as me, but how they deal with them? Is going to be different than how I deal with them. So it’s this pretty badass leveler, when virtually all the people you date have nightmares, panic attacks, anxiety attacks, quirks up the wazoo... because those things don’t matter. The person does.Hello from ADHD-C-Land!!! :)Word to the wise; ADHD & Bipolar disorder share so many symptoms they’re considered “sister-disorders” ...but they’re also 2 of the very very few disorders that can’t exist comorbid in the same brain. There are complicated sciencey-reasons why... but the easiest way to understand is to look at meds. ADHD peeps have opposite-stimulant-reaction, stimulants are clarifying & soothing; meanwhile stimulants kick bipolar people into Manias & Mixed Episodes. Meanwhile, bipolar meds used on ADHD people? To oversimplify just a smidge... The antipsychotics cause psychosis, mood stabilizers cause emotional dysreg, and antidepressants cause depression.IE the meds for each disorder reeeeally help the disorder they’re meant for, but royally f*ck over people with the other disorder.The premier psych hospital in my city has dedicated times each year where they admit the poor damn sobs who’ve been misdiagnosed & medicated for both... to strip them off all meds, find out what’s really going on, and get them the right meds for the disorder they’re actually dealing with. It’s an absolute travesty... largely caused by GPs who would never in a million years perform open heart surgery, & refer cardiac patients to a cardiologist... but blithely dispense psych meds, rather than refer to a psychiatrist. And then more and more psych meds, to deal with the side effects the first meds caused, because the person was misdiagnosed. The “luckiest” people in this clusterf*ck are the ADHD people misdiagnosed as bipolar, as pulling them off of bipolar meds comes with a screaming rush of sanity... although it still takes months inpatient to wean them off safely... but the bipolar peeps spend months weaning and then have to spend a year tailoring cocktails that match up to their neurochem, without mindf*cking stimulants causing their symptoms to skyrocket.  Seriously. The whole thing is an absolute heartbreaking travesty.It’s quirky how often ADHD & Bipolar peeps become the best of friends, though. I’ve had more bipolar friends than I can shake a stick at, and they’re usually in the same boat, eyeballs deep in ADHD peeps. In addition to sharing symptoms, even if the cause is different, the personalities involved tend to get on like a house on fire. ADHD & Aspies are another common pairing, less because of a commonality of personality, and more often the levels of honesty involved is just freaking relaxing.</blockquote>

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