When and how did you learn about boundaries? Are you able to establish and maintain boundaries with others? Why or why not???
I was sharing with someone about my experiences with boundaries, and this is what I wrote...
"Growing up, I had no boundaries...I had no idea where I stopped and you began. I didn't even know what boundaries were until my mom started getting into personal things of mine. I was yelled at for trying to place boundaries and I have had a difficult time as an adult because of not having good boundaries... If I tried to take a stand I was punished for it and I don't mean made to stand in the corner."
"Talk therapy is great, but some things have to be learned by experience I suppose. At any rate, when I went through my initial stage of therapy it felt as if I had been sliced up the middle from my root chakra to my crown, with my mind, heart, and solar plexus taking the brunt of the pain. I not only had no boundaries I didn't have a clue about my human rights. Not until I was in my late 30's (38 to be exact) because that is when I began therapy. (A counselor told me that I had been through severe, prolonged child abuse)."
"I have a difficult time establishing boundaries with people because I fear retribution and I have overstepped others' boundaries more than once. But I am learning to stand up for myself and to be mindful of other people's boundaries as well. It sure is not fun and I'm still very afraid of other people's anger."
"Fortunately, by reading a few books I learned about ethics and that was helpful in learning respect for others and placing some boundaries in my behaviors
"Anyway, I am making good progress and am proud of myself but I still find it embarrassing to be learning things as an adult that I should've learned as a child."
"I am getting a new therapist soon and I am gonna work on setting and maintaining boundaries, being mindful of others' boundaries, and how to handle boundary intrusions, along with others' anger."
What was your experience?
I was sharing with someone about my experiences with boundaries, and this is what I wrote...
"Growing up, I had no boundaries...I had no idea where I stopped and you began. I didn't even know what boundaries were until my mom started getting into personal things of mine. I was yelled at for trying to place boundaries and I have had a difficult time as an adult because of not having good boundaries... If I tried to take a stand I was punished for it and I don't mean made to stand in the corner."
"Talk therapy is great, but some things have to be learned by experience I suppose. At any rate, when I went through my initial stage of therapy it felt as if I had been sliced up the middle from my root chakra to my crown, with my mind, heart, and solar plexus taking the brunt of the pain. I not only had no boundaries I didn't have a clue about my human rights. Not until I was in my late 30's (38 to be exact) because that is when I began therapy. (A counselor told me that I had been through severe, prolonged child abuse)."
"I have a difficult time establishing boundaries with people because I fear retribution and I have overstepped others' boundaries more than once. But I am learning to stand up for myself and to be mindful of other people's boundaries as well. It sure is not fun and I'm still very afraid of other people's anger."
"Fortunately, by reading a few books I learned about ethics and that was helpful in learning respect for others and placing some boundaries in my behaviors
"Anyway, I am making good progress and am proud of myself but I still find it embarrassing to be learning things as an adult that I should've learned as a child."
"I am getting a new therapist soon and I am gonna work on setting and maintaining boundaries, being mindful of others' boundaries, and how to handle boundary intrusions, along with others' anger."
What was your experience?