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I have a friend who can move on quickly and hopes for a new relationship instantly. I want to understand her better so that I can help her.
Can BPDs really love or capable of love?
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It's thoughtful of you to want to support your friend better. It sounds like your friend may have a tendency to seek out new relationships as a way of coping with difficult emotions or seeking validation. Have you noticed any patterns in her behavior or feelings that might shed some light on why she moves on so quickly?
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She didn’t know she had bpd until recently. She doesn’t cheat or anything and she has had only 1 relationship till date. She has no impulse control issues or anything. So the diagnosis came as a shock for all of us. She was devastated. The only area she struggles with so much is relationship and emotional regulation. She says, whenever she meets a guy she has this thought in her head that maybe he could be the one and then it’s very hard for her to let go of that thought because she thinks if she let it go, then she’ll be single rest of her life. But she never gets in a relationship with any of them, even though she catches feelings easily because of this thought. If a guy is even a little bit nice to her, she starts seeing them as a prospective boyfriend (even though she doesn’t act on it) and is scared that if she stops seeing them that way, then she’ll never get what God has planned for her. It’s her thoughts that moves on quickly and she feels really ashamed and guilty about it.
Dr. Catalyst
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It's understandable that receiving a diagnosis like BPD can be shocking and distressing. It's great that your friend has your support during this difficult time. It seems like she may struggle with issues related to intense fear of abandonment and difficulty regulating her emotions and thoughts, especially in the context of relationships.
Have you and your friend talked about seeking therapy or support specifically focusing on skills to help with emotional regulation and managing fear of abandonment? Therapy, such as Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), can be very effective in helping individuals with BPD learn new ways to cope with intense emotions and improve their relationships. Would your friend be open to exploring therapy options that could provide her with tools to help manage these difficult emotions and thoughts?
