Several years ago I was abruptly let go from my job by the Head Honcho. (I call it fired). It all happened so fast -one minute I was accused of something and the next I was told to get my things and leave. Pretty bad situation which resulted in a 4 year legal battle.
As I was leaving my office , my immediate supervisor Boss (my good friend too- 11 years) was standing in her office just looking at me with the most blank look on her face and not saying anything. To this day I still see her face in my dreams. It was like she wasn't really there or in shock or something. Dissociating ??
I left and went home and expected her to call me that night to ask what had happened . I never heard from her. I tried to call her , sent her emails even snail mail but she never responded to any of it. This went on for months- meanwhile my mother passed and even though she had been friends and pretty close with my mother , my friend took a month to send a sympathy card and did not attend the funeral but all of my ex coworkers did. Since I had started legal action I just figured that she could not talk to me , so I let it go. I was extremely hurt since we had been close and spent a lot of time together at work and outside of work.
I heard from her via email a couple of times - she sent me a reference letter and one day sent me my job description with additional duties I had been responsible for ( this was a random email she just sent one day ) After a year I was able to get a new job but we still had no contact as the law suit dragged on. I would pass her on the road occasionally and she just blankly stared at me - no sign of recognition. I felt very intimidated and did not attempt to contact her even after the lawsuit ended. Once in a while I would email her regarding how to do something I needed to do for work and she would respond but still no personal connection.
I moved on to another job and was really busy for a couple of years but we still exchanged Xmas cards. Other than that no contact. I email her and asked if we could get together since I missed talking to her and she made an excuse about her calendar was at home. I found that to be ridiculous since her calendar was always in her computer and on her phone so I never followed up with her.
Time got away from me and then I heard that she had gone out on medical leave. Then Covid hit and she never returned to work but changed jobs 8 months after taking her medical leave. Then 6 months later I found out she had to leave her new job - anxiety ,panic attacks and who knows what else. I tried to reach out to her , sent her birthday cards, etc. Never heard anything from her. Then I heard she retired .
So I finally decided to text her and attempt to put an end to this silence. She did not respond to my text. I sent her a note and asked her what was wrong - did I do something to her ?( I wasn't aware of doing anything personal to her) of course no response . A month later I text her and she responded 3 hours later . Real strange text back-very strained -She thanked me for reaching out and it meant a lot to her - she said she would reach out to me and we could talk. Never heard from her so I sent her a letter talking about the day I was fired , what had gone down , and how I was so sorry if it had any effect on her (stress?). Two days letter she sent me a text with picture of the envelope I had mailed to her. Just 2 words : please stop.
I have no idea what is going on but I feel like something happened to her the day I was fired and she has been avoiding me out of paranoia or fear. She did have some issues when we worked together but , I am just so confused . She obviously can't talk on the phone to me or see me in person but she could text a little to me. Could I possibly be a trigger to her of some type of emotional upset due to seeing me get fired ? She has not told anyone what is going on with her and the whole thing has me emotionally distraught since I feel like I had something to do with her illness. Feeling really guilty.
As I was leaving my office , my immediate supervisor Boss (my good friend too- 11 years) was standing in her office just looking at me with the most blank look on her face and not saying anything. To this day I still see her face in my dreams. It was like she wasn't really there or in shock or something. Dissociating ??
I left and went home and expected her to call me that night to ask what had happened . I never heard from her. I tried to call her , sent her emails even snail mail but she never responded to any of it. This went on for months- meanwhile my mother passed and even though she had been friends and pretty close with my mother , my friend took a month to send a sympathy card and did not attend the funeral but all of my ex coworkers did. Since I had started legal action I just figured that she could not talk to me , so I let it go. I was extremely hurt since we had been close and spent a lot of time together at work and outside of work.
I heard from her via email a couple of times - she sent me a reference letter and one day sent me my job description with additional duties I had been responsible for ( this was a random email she just sent one day ) After a year I was able to get a new job but we still had no contact as the law suit dragged on. I would pass her on the road occasionally and she just blankly stared at me - no sign of recognition. I felt very intimidated and did not attempt to contact her even after the lawsuit ended. Once in a while I would email her regarding how to do something I needed to do for work and she would respond but still no personal connection.
I moved on to another job and was really busy for a couple of years but we still exchanged Xmas cards. Other than that no contact. I email her and asked if we could get together since I missed talking to her and she made an excuse about her calendar was at home. I found that to be ridiculous since her calendar was always in her computer and on her phone so I never followed up with her.
Time got away from me and then I heard that she had gone out on medical leave. Then Covid hit and she never returned to work but changed jobs 8 months after taking her medical leave. Then 6 months later I found out she had to leave her new job - anxiety ,panic attacks and who knows what else. I tried to reach out to her , sent her birthday cards, etc. Never heard anything from her. Then I heard she retired .
So I finally decided to text her and attempt to put an end to this silence. She did not respond to my text. I sent her a note and asked her what was wrong - did I do something to her ?( I wasn't aware of doing anything personal to her) of course no response . A month later I text her and she responded 3 hours later . Real strange text back-very strained -She thanked me for reaching out and it meant a lot to her - she said she would reach out to me and we could talk. Never heard from her so I sent her a letter talking about the day I was fired , what had gone down , and how I was so sorry if it had any effect on her (stress?). Two days letter she sent me a text with picture of the envelope I had mailed to her. Just 2 words : please stop.
I have no idea what is going on but I feel like something happened to her the day I was fired and she has been avoiding me out of paranoia or fear. She did have some issues when we worked together but , I am just so confused . She obviously can't talk on the phone to me or see me in person but she could text a little to me. Could I possibly be a trigger to her of some type of emotional upset due to seeing me get fired ? She has not told anyone what is going on with her and the whole thing has me emotionally distraught since I feel like I had something to do with her illness. Feeling really guilty.