Child psychologist for an adult

[Evie loves Sam]

Is it normal for a person to have appointments with a child psychologist themselves to talk about their child, rather than allow a child to speak to a child psychologist themselves?

 

[Dr. Catalyst]

Is it normal for a person to have appointments with a child psychologist themselves to talk about their child, rather than allow a child to speak to a child psychologist themselves?

It is not uncommon for parents or caregivers to consult with a child psychologist to discuss concerns or issues related to their child. In fact, seeking professional guidance from a child psychologist can be helpful in understanding and addressing your child's needs. It's important to remember that each situation is unique, and there may be various reasons why a parent or caregiver might choose to seek guidance individually rather than involving the child directly.

Can you tell me a little more about your specific situation? Are you concerned about your child's well-being or behavior?

 

[Evie loves Sam]

No concerns. But I asked that child have someone to talk to themselves. But they said no because they thought the child might say something about them.

But the parent suggested they see a child psychologist instead to talk about the child.

Tue child does not have a mental health condition

 

[Dr. Catalyst]

No concerns. But I asked that child have someone to talk to themselves. But they said no because they thought the child might say something about them.

But the parent suggested they see a child psychologist instead to talk about the child.

Tue child does not have a mental health condition

I understand your concern about the child not having an opportunity to see a psychologist themselves. It's important for children to have a safe space to express themselves and discuss any personal concerns they may have. While the preference of the child's parent is to have their child's issues discussed in a confidential and professional setting, it's also essential to consider the child's perspective and their right to have their own voice heard.

In situations like this, open communication between the child, parent, and psychologist is key. It may be helpful to have a conversation with the parent and discuss the potential benefits of the child having their own sessions with a psychologist. Emphasize the importance of allowing the child the opportunity to express their thoughts and feelings in a therapeutic setting.

Would you feel comfortable discussing this suggestion with the child's parent and exploring potential alternatives that could address everyone's concerns?

 

[Evie loves Sam]

The child tells me memories they have but will not tell adults who can help

 

[Evie loves Sam]

How to support child to tell everyone consistently what she remembers.

 

[Dr. Catalyst]

The child tells me memories they have but will not tell adults who can help

It's commendable that the child feels comfortable sharing their memories with you. It's crucial to take their experiences seriously and ensure they receive the appropriate support and assistance. While the child may be hesitant to share their memories with adults who can help, it's important to find a way to ensure their safety and well-being.

Is there a reason why the child is reluctant to share these memories with adults who can provide assistance? Do they feel afraid, distrustful, or apprehensive? Understanding their concerns can help in finding the best course of action.

One suggestion is to explore the possibility of involving a trusted adult who can act as an intermediary between the child and professionals who can help. This could be a teacher, school counselor, or a family member who the child feels comfortable with. This intermediary can help facilitate communication, ensuring that the child's needs are communicated effectively to the right professionals.

Have you discussed the idea of having someone the child trusts act as an intermediary to assist them in seeking the necessary help?

 

[Dr. Catalyst]

How to support child to tell everyone consistently what she remembers.

Supporting a child in sharing their memories can be a delicate and complex process. It's important to approach this situation with sensitivity and respect for the child's feelings and boundaries. Here are a few suggestions to support the child in sharing their memories more consistently:

1. Create a Safe and Trusting Environment: Ensure that the child feels safe and supported when talking about their memories. Let them know that their feelings and experiences are valid and that you are there to support and listen to them without judgment.

2. Validate their Feelings: Let the child know that it's normal to feel scared or hesitant to share certain memories. Validate their emotions and let them know that it's okay if it takes time for them to feel comfortable discussing their experiences with others.

3. Active Listening: Show the child that you are genuinely interested and willing to listen to what they have to say. Provide a non-judgmental and caring space for them to express themselves without interruption. Reflecting back what they say can help them feel heard and understood.

4. Encourage Communication: Encourage open and honest communication by asking open-ended questions or using prompts that allow the child to comfortably share their memories. Respect their boundaries if they are not ready to share certain details and reassure them that they are in control of what they disclose.

5. Professional Support: Consider involving a qualified child psychologist or therapist to provide specialized support to the child. A professional can help the child navigate their emotions and provide guidance on how to communicate their memories in a safe and appropriate manner.

Remember, every child's journey is unique, and it's important to respect their individual pace and readiness to share their memories. Patience, understanding, and professional support are crucial in helping the child feel comfortable and supported to share their experiences.

 

[Evie loves Sam]

Thank you for validation. That is how I feel.

 

[Dr. Catalyst]

Thank you for validation. That is how I feel.

You're most welcome! I'm glad that my response resonated with you and validated your feelings. It's important to recognize and honor your own emotions and concerns while supporting the child. Remember, your role in providing a safe and supportive environment for the child is incredibly valuable. Should you have any further questions or need additional support, please don't hesitate to reach out. You're doing important work, and I'm here to support you every step of the way.

 

[Evie loves Sam]

For clarity, What are the steps in validating a child?

 

[Dr. Catalyst]

For clarity, What are the steps in validating a child?

Validating a child's experiences is crucial in building trust, promoting emotional well-being, and establishing a supportive relationship. Here are some steps you can take to validate a child:

1. Listen Actively: Give the child your full attention when they are expressing themselves. Make eye contact, use non-verbal cues to show that you're engaged, and avoid interrupting or dismissing their thoughts.

2. Reflect Back their Feelings: Show the child that you understand and acknowledge their emotions by reflecting them back. For example, you can say, "It sounds like you're feeling scared/upset/sad about what happened. Is that right?" This lets the child know that you're actively trying to understand their perspective and empathize with them.

3. Normalize their Feelings: Assure the child that their feelings are valid and understandable given their experiences. Let them know that it's okay to feel the way they do, and that there's no right or wrong way to feel about their traumatic memories.

4. Avoid Judgment: Create a non-judgmental atmosphere where the child feels safe sharing their thoughts and experiences without fear of criticism or blame. Suspend judgment and focus on validating their perspective rather than imposing your own beliefs or opinions.

5. Affirm their Strength: Acknowledge the child's resilience and courage in sharing their experiences and feelings. Let them know that it takes strength to talk about difficult memories, and that you admire their bravery.

6. Offer Support: Express your commitment to supporting the child through their healing journey. Reassure them that they are not alone and that you'll be there to listen, offer guidance, and connect them with appropriate resources when needed.

Remember, validating a child is an ongoing process that requires active listening, empathy, and patience. Each child is unique, so it's essential to adapt your approach to their individual needs and comfort levels.