Sunshine71
MyPTSD Pro
It has been ages since I last posted..... I do hope all is well for you and during this difficult time.
We have been together for 30 years - he was so kind and caring.
I am 49 he is 48...... I have been by his side for 10 years - after the hot and run car accident however the PTSD isn't really to do with that accident - this is from another accident when we first met - and there was a fatality.
I was going to post a few weeks ago to say how wonderful everything is going. I felt we were re connecting again.
But after a massive argument yesterday (after I felt really overwhelmed and upset & instead of supporting me he throws a wobbler himself) :( and a massive argument this morning after I reacted when he moved the coffee table and it hurt my little toe) I am not sure as I just feel wiped out again and wondering why I am still with him.
Things have got really tough as our 14 year old son isn't motivated, getting up really late, he is shattered and I know maybe a lot of kids feel the same but hubbie is getting really wound up by this. He wants him to just get on, be in front of his PC and study. When he has done this he says it is OK to play his PlayStation..... he can be on there for hours and hours - and getting him to come off if it again is super stressful too!
If my son is doing his own thing - glued to a phone or Playstation then things are calmed - however I don't feel this is the best parenting.
I take my time when supporting our son with school work - however he of course wants to get it done super quickly and this causes arguments too.
The thing is I am working (from my home office) and I am the one earning the £'s - so it is really hard for me to stop and support our son.... my work is quite full on and I am really busy. Hubbie was going to do this however he is putting gardening first, things around the house, hoping that working on Instagram will bring him more work and our son is just being left to crack on. If I get involved there are arguments :(
I wondered how you are all doing and juggling with work/ schooling/ lockdown. Amy tips/ advice/ anything thats worked well?!
I would like nothing more than to sit with my son for hours and support him with his school work! However I could lose work / clients too and with hubbie not working we can not afford for this to happen.
Anyway thanks as always for being there.
Stay safe, Sunshine
We have been together for 30 years - he was so kind and caring.
I am 49 he is 48...... I have been by his side for 10 years - after the hot and run car accident however the PTSD isn't really to do with that accident - this is from another accident when we first met - and there was a fatality.
I was going to post a few weeks ago to say how wonderful everything is going. I felt we were re connecting again.
But after a massive argument yesterday (after I felt really overwhelmed and upset & instead of supporting me he throws a wobbler himself) :( and a massive argument this morning after I reacted when he moved the coffee table and it hurt my little toe) I am not sure as I just feel wiped out again and wondering why I am still with him.
Things have got really tough as our 14 year old son isn't motivated, getting up really late, he is shattered and I know maybe a lot of kids feel the same but hubbie is getting really wound up by this. He wants him to just get on, be in front of his PC and study. When he has done this he says it is OK to play his PlayStation..... he can be on there for hours and hours - and getting him to come off if it again is super stressful too!
If my son is doing his own thing - glued to a phone or Playstation then things are calmed - however I don't feel this is the best parenting.
I take my time when supporting our son with school work - however he of course wants to get it done super quickly and this causes arguments too.
The thing is I am working (from my home office) and I am the one earning the £'s - so it is really hard for me to stop and support our son.... my work is quite full on and I am really busy. Hubbie was going to do this however he is putting gardening first, things around the house, hoping that working on Instagram will bring him more work and our son is just being left to crack on. If I get involved there are arguments :(
I wondered how you are all doing and juggling with work/ schooling/ lockdown. Amy tips/ advice/ anything thats worked well?!
I would like nothing more than to sit with my son for hours and support him with his school work! However I could lose work / clients too and with hubbie not working we can not afford for this to happen.
Anyway thanks as always for being there.
Stay safe, Sunshine