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Coping strategies for intellectualism as avoidance?

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Try using it to your advantage by running the same thought through different filters.

Academic, professional, blunt, friendly, warm & fuzzy, wordy, concise, storytime, highlights, journalistic, funny, diplomatic, etc.

When I’m very relaxed or just being me, I’m concise as hell & very straightforward. That works in the military crowd, but not very many other places. And it assumes a level of trust / that if someone wants to know more? They’ll ask. So in everyday life I have to run the same statement through different filters, depending on my audience. :wtf: Not my favourite thing in the world. I don’t like using 50 words where 1 will do. But when I’m distressed those same filters provide a lot of distance between “me” and what I’m thinking / talking about. Whilst still allowing me to think/talk about it. So sometimes I can’t help it (FFS, another novel), and other times I’m doing it deliberately.

But by practicing running it through different filters? It gives me a lot more control/self awareness when I can’t help it. Either as a TBI thing, or an avoidance thing.


Was flipping back through threads.....and found your "filters" and very smart concept. I think I grew up having to be transparant so I had no filters. I always saw filtering as "not quite telling the truth" and there is only one way to tell a storrrrrrrrrry.....all of it.....to be sure I didn't leave anything out and to tell the other guy I'm not a head-gamer.

I got to think about this a bit....is there any information on "filters" cause this is very black and white....either I tell as little as possible.....or all.....I hadn't thought of filters in the way you describe them......any literature out there on this topic?
 
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