Thank you for sharing all this info! Much appreciated :) I don’t mean to come off like I’m blaming him for everything. It’s just really intense right now and I do feel manipulated and stonewalled etc.Maybe this is a result of rehab or therapy. He’s learning about processing emotions without unhealthy coping mechanisms? That is a new factor, right? Even if he’s not doing it in the healthiest way by isolating at least he isn’t drinking.
I don’t know you or him at all, all I can do is tell you that this is the way my sufferer reacts to stress. He shuts down and isolates. If he thought there was a possibility that he was being reported to the cops for anything, he’d spiral. There’s not much I can do when he isolates except give him some space.
This wasn’t just isolation, sadly. This was like anger and hatred directed at me like burn holes through you type anger. This wasn’t “I just need to cool down.” He’s been very angry towards me about emotions/feelings since coming home. Anything I say about my needs, feelings or the relationship is met with stonewalling and just mean hateful things said to me before it even gets past me saying “I feel….” I feel it’s transference type behavior. He often says to me in regards to not speaking to his family “well, it doesn’t matter because I don’t talk to my dad and my moms dead.” Usually when he’s very irritated, never in a calm convo……I don’t think those happen anymore except for if we talk about what we need from the store lol