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Csa flashback - how do i tell my therapist?

Discussion in 'Treatment & Therapy' started by Hopeforlife, May 14, 2018.

  1. Hopeforlife

    Hopeforlife Active Member

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    I am not sure where I should post this so please move it if in the wrong place.

    I have had EMDR for the past few months and have found it very beneficial to talk my Therapist through my flashbacks and dreams. I have a specific recurring flashback and dream of oral sexual abuse. I need to build up the courage and find the words to tell my therapist but I always block up. I have tried a few times and even tried to write it down but it doesn’t make sense. Any ideas? I’m stuck on this atm and really struggling ;(
     
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  3. somerandomguy

    somerandomguy Learning how to be myself Premium Member

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    Hi @Hopeforlife - we don't use trigger warnings on the site, since everything here is a potential trigger. I've made the same mistake myself so don't feel bad.

    My only suggestion is to keep working. Do you have a trauma diary? I find that if I write things out there, even if it doesn't make much sense, it's easier for me to go talk about it with my therapist afterwards.
     
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  4. Hopeforlife

    Hopeforlife Active Member

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    Thanks for the heads up @somerandomguy appreciate it. I can’t edit it so maybe the moderators will.

    Thanks for your response. Yes I have a diary and also have one on here but I just can’t find the words my mind goes blank. I am not afraid to share with my therapist but I just block when I am trying to communicate this particular flashback. I know once I do things should ease up for a bit.
     
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  5. somerandomguy

    somerandomguy Learning how to be myself Premium Member

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    Well the mental block is a real thing. It's not just you ... lots of us find we lack the words to talk about what's happened to us.

    What I have done is to go in to my therapy appointment with an actual list of things I want to talk about. Not a really long list if I can help it, because that just means the things I actually need to talk about will somehow slide off the chart and we'll run out of time before we get to them. And I also make a copy for my T and let her look at it before we start so she knows what I want to cover. She'll also ask questions based on my list. It's jump-started several conversations that I really didn't know how to have.
     
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  6. MyWillow

    MyWillow Well-Known Member

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    Ugh. I’m at this point too. Sometimes I just end up shaking because describing even banal flashbacks are so distressing. Mostly because I don’t know what they are about sometimes and yet they make me feel panicked.

    If you are ready you could always talk to your T about the fact that you can’t talk about some stuff. Approach it that way?
     
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