Strangelongtrip
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My dad who’s a narcissist is back to work after lazing around and living off of his dad for almost two years. I live with him, my mom, my brother and his daughter. I just started school again online after about 20 months off at the same time. I’ve been living somewhere else for my job (overnight pet sitting/general pet sitting) and I just am back after about two weeks away. I barely have time to interact with him but today I did and I regret it.
He’s worse every day he comes back from work. He’s not in a total rage or anything but just smaller emotionally abusive remarks here one there. I didn’t avoid them like I usually do today and I regret it. It was just two things he said that were bad and now I’m stuck in hypervigilance and I’m shaking. I can’t focus on my schoolwork at all. I feel like...it’s like it’s not like he’s hitting us or anything (he has attacked my brother though when my brother got in his face for stealing money from him) it’s just he can never be wrong and if you say he did something wrong or he doesn’t like he gets so mean. Like today my mom asked him if she could turn the air up because it was cold in the house and he said in a really nasty voice “don’t even ask me that.” Then calls in this really righteous voice “there’s a new rule in this house! Don’t ask me about the air!” I feel like I’m overreacting and it’s not even that big of a deal but it’s completely thrown me off. He also made a rude remark at my brother at dinner becuase it’s his fault about something and my dad was like “you don’t need to say that.” And later said yeah it’s my fault!!!
I’m usually so good at just letting his bs roll off my shoulders but I’m struggling in my classes already and balancing school and work at the end of the day my body shuts down from the stress (I get really cold and achey and I start shaking). I’m sleeping enough and eating well but it’s already physically affecting me, and this on top of it. I can’t afford to move out. I know I posted about that earlier and so many people were like that’s all I can do and I can’t make excuses but I honestly can’t.
I feel pretty hopeless that I can do this all at once.
He’s worse every day he comes back from work. He’s not in a total rage or anything but just smaller emotionally abusive remarks here one there. I didn’t avoid them like I usually do today and I regret it. It was just two things he said that were bad and now I’m stuck in hypervigilance and I’m shaking. I can’t focus on my schoolwork at all. I feel like...it’s like it’s not like he’s hitting us or anything (he has attacked my brother though when my brother got in his face for stealing money from him) it’s just he can never be wrong and if you say he did something wrong or he doesn’t like he gets so mean. Like today my mom asked him if she could turn the air up because it was cold in the house and he said in a really nasty voice “don’t even ask me that.” Then calls in this really righteous voice “there’s a new rule in this house! Don’t ask me about the air!” I feel like I’m overreacting and it’s not even that big of a deal but it’s completely thrown me off. He also made a rude remark at my brother at dinner becuase it’s his fault about something and my dad was like “you don’t need to say that.” And later said yeah it’s my fault!!!
I’m usually so good at just letting his bs roll off my shoulders but I’m struggling in my classes already and balancing school and work at the end of the day my body shuts down from the stress (I get really cold and achey and I start shaking). I’m sleeping enough and eating well but it’s already physically affecting me, and this on top of it. I can’t afford to move out. I know I posted about that earlier and so many people were like that’s all I can do and I can’t make excuses but I honestly can’t.
I feel pretty hopeless that I can do this all at once.