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Dad slapping daughter's bum : normal ?

Discussion in 'Sexual Assault' started by Lis2075, May 27, 2018.

  1. Lis2075

    Lis2075 New Member

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    Hi there,

    Do you think it's normal that a father "playfully" slaps his 17-year-old daughter's bum from time to time ? Have you ever experienced this from your dad ?
     
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  3. Suzetig

    Suzetig Still the Staff Kitteh... Moderator Sponsor $100+

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    I didn’t, but my dad was violent and sbusive so any physical contact was violent. My children are much younger but playful bum slapping (as in both kids screaming with laughter while my husband and I try to catch them) is pretty normal.

    It doesn’t sound odd to me tbh, depending on their relationship. Is your daughter ok with it?
     
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  4. Friday

    Friday Raise Hell Moderator

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    My dad? Not really, he’s very reserved most of the time. My mom, uncles, siblings, coaches, friends, friends dads, friends moms? Sure. Sure. No big thing. Certainly not a sexual thing.
     
  5. EveHarrington

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    Context is needed.

    Was your dad molesting you every chance he could get? Was he sexual in his words as well? Or was the butt slapping the extent of it all?
     
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  6. Abstract

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    I think its always hard to verbalise the more subtle stuff when it comes to less obvious situations. It is absolutely very possible for something like that to be entirely innocent. Totally. It is also possible for it to fall into other agendas. 1. Nothing else going on but there is a sexual gratifying energy about the incident. Expression, actions etc. 2. Not only that but the person has either done other sexually inappropriate stuff before or have been heard to voice inappropriate sentiments. 3. It is innocent but it is triggering or drudges past experiences with someone else. Not the person doing the slappings problem. The past lies in the person concerned about it.

    Do you want to say more?
     
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  7. berlinda

    berlinda On the way to find out :-) Premium Member Sponsor $100+

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    Yes, though very slightly different. Putitng an arm around me rather close to my breasts.
    Do I think it's normal?
    f*ck no :)
     
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  8. LilyRose

    LilyRose Well-Known Member

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    It's probably different, but my first foster "dad" tried to make me call him daddy and kiss him goodnight everyday, or else.
    I got the "or else" daily because i wouldn't do it, but that was only emotional and physical.
     
  9. Slushie

    Slushie Active Member

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    No it is not normal, my dad done similar things to me when I was a child and now as an adult it creeps me out thinking about, the guy is a jerk.

    Aged 17 the only person I'd want to do that would be a partner, absolutely no one else, and definitely not my father.
     
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