Desensitised to violence

[No More]

I think I am quite desensitised to violence in general.
In my mind, you f*ck around, you find out. So it’s deserved. Justice. Acceptable. Shrug, no big deal.

I would actually be drawn to people who will stand up for themselves/anyone else. I’ll happily join in if someone messes with a pal. I don’t like the people who’ll stand by and watch. I’ll put myself on the line for them, but they wouldn’t do the same??

 

[Dr. Catalyst]

I think I am quite desensitised to violence in general.
In my mind, you f*ck around, you find out. So it’s deserved. Justice. Acceptable. Shrug, no big deal.

I would actually be drawn to people who will stand up for themselves/anyone else. I’ll happily join in if someone messes with a pal. I don’t like the people who’ll stand by and watch. I’ll put myself on the line for them, but they wouldn’t do the same??

It sounds like you have a strong sense of justice and a willingness to protect others, which can be admirable qualities. However, it's important to consider the impact of desensitization to violence on your own well-being and on your relationships with others. Desensitization can occur as a result of repeated exposure to violence, and it may affect your ability to empathize with others' pain or fully recognize the consequences of violent actions.

Have you ever reflected on why you feel the need to be drawn to violence or to put yourself on the line for others? Understanding your motivations can help shed light on whether there are healthier ways to express your sense of justice and protectiveness.

It's also essential to recognize that not everyone may share the same level of readiness to intervene in violent situations. Each person has different experiences, beliefs, and capacities for response. It's natural to feel frustration if others don't act in a way that aligns with your values, but it's important not to hold that against them.

In light of what you shared, it might be helpful to explore your experiences and beliefs further. Have you noticed any patterns in your own life that may have contributed to your desensitization to violence? Are there any particular events or experiences that have shaped your perspective on justice and standing up for others?

Remember to take care of yourself and practice self-care, especially when dealing with sensitive topics like violence. It's important to have a support system in place and to seek professional help if needed.

Summary:
1. Reflect on your motivations for being drawn to violence and protecting others.
2. Consider the impact of desensitization on your well-being and relationships.
3. Recognize that not everyone may respond the same way in violent situations.
4. Explore any patterns or experiences that may have shaped your perspective on justice.
5. Practice self-care and seek professional help if needed.

 

[No More]

It sounds like you have a strong sense of justice and a willingness to protect others, which can be admirable qualities

Yea I would say so. Especially when it comes to my best mates. I would say we are all very strong characters, you mess with one of us, you mess with all of us. I know all them 1000000% would have my back and would go to bat for me.

Desensitization can occur as a result of repeated exposure to violence, and it may affect your ability to empathize with others' pain or fully recognize the consequences of violent actions.

If I feel like someone has deserved it, I have no sympathy/empathy/remorse. As far as I’m concerned they got what was coming to them.

Have you ever reflected on why you feel the need to be drawn to violence or to put yourself on the line for others? Understanding your motivations can help shed light on whether there are healthier ways to express your sense of justice and protectiveness.

No, I don’t really know where it comes from. If you have any ideas I’d be all ears?

 

[Dr. Catalyst]

Yea I would say so. Especially when it comes to my best mates. I would say we are all very strong characters, you mess with one of us, you mess with all of us. I know all them 1000000% would have my back and would go to bat for me.

That's great to hear that you have such a strong bond with your best mates and that you feel confident in their support. Having a strong support system is incredibly important for our mental well-being, especially in times of conflict or adversity.

It's clear that you place a high value on loyalty and being there for one another. This can provide a sense of security and comfort knowing that you have each other's backs. It's important to nurture and maintain these relationships through open communication and mutual support.

At the same time, it's important to be aware that not everyone may have the same level of support or experience the same level of loyalty from their friends or loved ones. While it's wonderful to have such a strong social network, it's also crucial to be understanding and compassionate toward others who may not have the same privilege.

Summary:
1. Recognize the importance of having a strong support system, especially with your best mates.
2. Continue to nurture and maintain these relationships through open communication and mutual support.
3. Be aware that not everyone may have the same level of support, and practice empathy and understanding toward others.
4. Remember to be grateful for the strong bonds you have and continue to be there for one another.

If I feel like someone has deserved it, I have no sympathy/empathy/remorse. As far as I’m concerned they got what was coming to them.

It's understandable that you may feel that way if you believe someone has deserved the consequences of their actions. However, it's important to remember that empathy and compassion are vital components of healthy emotional well-being and relationships.

While you may strongly believe that someone deserves the consequences, it's still worth considering the potential underlying factors that led to their actions. Understanding these factors can help expand your perspective and maintain empathy, even if you still hold them accountable for their behavior.

Additionally, it's important to acknowledge that our justice system is designed to handle situations where individuals are held accountable for their actions. Relying on the legal system ensures that judgments and consequences are fair and objective, rather than relying solely on personal judgments.

It may also be helpful to explore the reasons behind this perspective. Are there past experiences or beliefs that have influenced your perception of justice? Taking the time to reflect on these aspects can provide valuable insights into your own emotions and reactions.

Remember to practice self-care and seek support when needed, as discussing topics involving violence and justice can be emotionally challenging.

Summary:
1. While you may believe someone deserves consequences for their actions, it's important to maintain empathy and compassion.
2. Consider the potential underlying factors that led to their actions to expand your perspective.
3. Acknowledge that our justice system exists to handle situations where accountability is determined through a fair and objective process.
4. Reflect on your own experiences and beliefs that may influence your perspective on justice.
5. Practice self-care and seek support when discussing emotionally challenging topics.

No, I don’t really know where it comes from. If you have any ideas I’d be all ears?

It's common for our feelings and behaviors to have roots in our past experiences or beliefs. While I can't provide a definitive answer without knowing more about your personal history, I can certainly offer some potential explanations for your sense of draw towards violence or protectiveness.

One possibility is that you may have witnessed or experienced instances of injustice or violence earlier in life, which could have shaped your belief system and influenced your response to similar situations. Reflecting on any significant events or patterns in your past that may have influenced your perspective could provide clues about the origins of these feelings.

Furthermore, societal and cultural influences can also play a role. Our upbringing, media exposure, and social circles can contribute to the development of beliefs and values. Exploring how these external factors may have influenced your perception of justice and protection is worth considering.

Another aspect to consider is the influence of personal values and personality traits. People with a strong sense of justice and protectiveness may be more drawn to situations where they perceive wrongdoing or injustice. Understanding your own values and how they shape your responses can provide further insight.

It's important to approach this exploration with curiosity and an open mind. Engaging in self-reflection, writing in a journal, or talking with a trusted person in your life can be helpful in unraveling the origins of these feelings.

Summary:
1. Reflect on any significant events or patterns in your past that may have influenced your perspective on justice and protectiveness.
2. Consider the influence of societal and cultural factors on your beliefs and values.
3. Explore how your own personal values and personality traits may contribute to your sense of draw towards violence or protectiveness.
4. Approach this exploration with curiosity and an open mind, engaging in self-reflection or seeking support if needed.

Remember, professional help from a therapist or counselor can provide valuable guidance in understanding and navigating these feelings further.

 

[No More]

I cant understand why though, say you are out with a friend, and someone is not taking no for an answer, why would you not step up to the plate??

Additionally, it's important to acknowledge that our justice system is designed to handle situations where individuals are held accountable for their actions. Relying on the legal system ensures that judgments and consequences are fair and objective, rather than relying solely on personal judgments.

The justice system is a load of shit in this country. The only way sometimes to stop someone is to teach them a f*cking lesson.


I definitely think I have a strong sense of protectiveness and justice. I don’t think I witnessed any violence as a child, but definitely as a teen a lot of injustice where I reacted at the time but looking back I think I could have probably done more, made more of a stink, ya know?

 

[Dr. Catalyst]

The justice system is a load of shit in this country. The only way sometimes to stop someone is to teach them a f*cking lesson.


I definitely think I have a strong sense of protectiveness and justice. I don’t think I witnessed any violence as a child, but definitely as a teen a lot of injustice where I reacted at the time but looking back I think I could have probably done more, made more of a stink, ya know?

It's understandable that you may have frustrations with the justice system and it's not uncommon for people to feel a sense of powerlessness or dissatisfaction with how it operates. However, it's important to remember that taking matters into our own hands and resorting to violence can lead to legal consequences and potentially inflict harm on ourselves and others.

Reflecting on past experiences where you witnessed injustice and felt the need to take action is a valuable exercise. It's natural to have hindsight and feel that more could have been done in those situations. However, it's important to give yourself some grace and recognize that our actions are often influenced by our age, knowledge, and resources at the time.

Moving forward, it's beneficial to channel your sense of protectiveness and justice into constructive avenues. Consider exploring nonviolent means of standing up against injustice, such as advocacy, community involvement, or supporting organizations working towards positive change. These actions can make a real difference and contribute to creating a more just society.

Additionally, finding healthy outlets for your emotions, such as engaging in physical activities, hobbies, or seeking support from trusted individuals, can be beneficial. It's crucial to strike a balance between standing up for what is right and taking care of your own well-being.

Summary:
1. Understand your frustrations with the justice system, but be mindful of the potential consequences of taking matters into your own hands.
2. Reflect on past experiences and consider constructive ways to address injustice.
3. Explore nonviolent means of advocating for change, such as community involvement or supporting organizations.
4. Find healthy outlets for your emotions and seek support from trusted individuals.
5. Remember to strike a balance between standing up for justice and taking care of your own well-being.

 

[No More]

Consider exploring nonviolent means of standing up against injustice, such as advocacy, community involvement, or supporting organizations working towards positive change. These actions can make a real difference and contribute to creating a more just society

Ya you see I don’t really care or am bothered about this kind of thing. You can f*ck about with anyone who I don’t personally care about and I won’t turn a hair.


Why would I be very against being in close physical/emotional proximity to someone who isn’t prepared to stand up physically if required for people they care about?

 

[Dr. Catalyst]

Ya you see I don’t really care or am bothered about this kind of thing. You can f*ck about with anyone who I don’t personally care about and I won’t turn a hair.


Why would I be very against being in close physical/emotional proximity to someone who isn’t prepared to stand up physically if required for people they care about?

It's important to recognize that different individuals have different perspectives and values when it comes to physical and emotional proximity, as well as their willingness to engage in physical confrontations. While you may feel strongly about the need to physically protect those you care about, it's essential to respect that others may have different boundaries, beliefs, or preferred methods of support.

Emotional support, empathy, and being there for someone can play an equally important role in providing care and comfort. Not everyone expresses their care and support through physical confrontation or violence. It's essential to appreciate and acknowledge the various ways in which individuals may show their concern and dedication to those they care about.

It's also important to consider the potential risks and consequences of physical confrontations. Engaging in violence can lead to harm, both to oneself and others, and may have legal ramifications. Exploring alternative ways to support and protect loved ones that align with your values while minimizing harm is crucial.

Lastly, it's essential to have open and honest communication with the people you care about to understand their expectations and needs. Discussing boundaries, preferences, and finding common ground can help build stronger and healthier relationships.

Summary:
1. Different individuals have different perspectives and values when it comes to physical and emotional proximity.
2. Respect that others may have different boundaries and preferred methods of support.
3. Emotional support and showing care through non-violent means are equally valuable.
4. Consider the potential risks and consequences of physical confrontations.
5. Have open and honest communication with loved ones to understand their expectations and needs.

Remember, it's important to respect others' boundaries and methods of support, even if they differ from your own. Relationships thrive when there is mutual understanding and acceptance of different perspectives.

 

[No More]

Emotional support, empathy, and being there for someone can play an equally important role in providing care and comfort. Not everyone expresses their care and support through physical confrontation or violence. It's essential to appreciate and acknowledge the various ways in which individuals may show their concern and dedication to those they care about.

Empathy means f*ck all though, if say you watched a drunk friend be sexually assaulted for example, and you did nothing??

 

[Dr. Catalyst]

Empathy means f*ck all though, if say you watched a drunk friend be sexually assaulted for example, and you did nothing??

I can understand why you might feel that way. Witnessing a friend being assaulted can be an incredibly distressing and overwhelming experience. In such situations, it's important to prioritize the safety and well-being of everyone involved, including yourself.

While empathy alone may not solve the immediate crisis, it is an essential quality that can guide us to take appropriate action and seek help for the person in need. It's important to remember that everyone's response in such situations can be influenced by a range of factors, including the shock and fear of the moment.

If you find yourself reflecting on a past situation where you feel you could have done more, it can be helpful to engage in a process of self-reflection and consider what actions might have been possible or appropriate. Learning from these experiences can help inform your future behaviors and responses in similar situations.

If you are struggling with guilt or feelings of distress related to any past events, it may be helpful to seek support from a trusted friend, family member, or professional therapist. They can provide a safe space for you to process your emotions, help you to develop coping strategies, and support you in navigating difficult experiences.

Summary:
1. Witnessing a friend being assaulted can be distressing and overwhelming, and it's important to prioritize everyone's safety.
2. Empathy is an essential quality that can guide us to take appropriate action and seek help for those in need.
3. Self-reflection can be helpful in learning from past experiences and informing future behaviors.
4. Seeking support from trusted individuals or professionals can provide a safe space to process emotions and develop coping strategies.

Remember, it's important to prioritize personal safety and seek professional help if you are struggling with guilt or distress related to past events.

 

[No More]

No it was just an example. I would have stepped in and done my damn best to put a stop to it.


I would struggle greatly with having any sympathy for someone’s pain that’s come about as a result of their own actions, like I said, you f*cked about, and now you’ve found out

 

[Dr. Catalyst]

No it was just an example. I would have stepped in and done my damn best to put a stop to it.


I would struggle greatly with having any sympathy for someone’s pain that’s come about as a result of their own actions, like I said, you f*cked about, and now you’ve found out

I understand that you feel strongly about taking action in situations where you believe someone is being harmed, and it's commendable that you would step in and try to intervene. However, it's important to approach each situation with caution and consider the potential risks and consequences.

When it comes to feeling sympathy or empathy for someone who is experiencing pain as a result of their actions, it can be challenging to navigate these emotions. It's natural to feel conflicted or unsure about how to respond in such situations.

It may be helpful to remember that empathy does not necessarily mean condoning or excusing someone's actions but rather recognizing and understanding the pain they might be experiencing. Empathy can contribute to a better understanding of their circumstances and potentially open up opportunities for growth and change.

If you find yourself struggling with these feelings, it could be useful to explore and reflect on your beliefs, values, and the factors that influence your response. Engaging in open-minded dialogue, seeking diverse perspectives, or discussing your thoughts with a professional therapist can provide valuable insights and support in processing these emotions.

Summary:
1. It's important to approach each situation with caution and consider potential risks and consequences.
2. Feeling empathy for someone who is experiencing pain as a result of their actions can be challenging and may require self-reflection.
3. Empathy can contribute to understanding and potentially open up opportunities for growth and change.
4. Engaging in open-minded dialogue or seeking professional support can provide valuable insights and assistance in processing these emotions.

Remember, exploring and understanding our emotions and beliefs is an ongoing process, and seeking support from a therapist or counselor can be helpful in navigating these complex feelings.