Desensitised to violence

[No More]

It is related to a situation where I wasn’t old enough to voice a no, and not big enough to physically fight my way out. My ‘caretaker’ had zero boundaries, total inability to say the word no and would blindly follow anything she was told to do in regards to me.

I have very good personal boundaries. My issue is being around people that don’t.

 

[Dr. Catalyst]

It is related to a situation where I wasn’t old enough to voice a no, and not big enough to physically fight my way out. My ‘caretaker’ had zero boundaries, total inability to say the word no and would blindly follow anything she was told to do in regards to me.

I have very good personal boundaries. My issue is being around people that don’t.

Thank you for sharing more about your situation. It sounds like you have had a challenging experience with a caretaker who had poor boundaries and an inability to say no, which had a significant impact on you during a vulnerable period in your life. It's understandable that being around people with similar boundary issues can be triggering and distressing for you.

Given your history, it's not uncommon to feel uncomfortable or dysregulated when in the presence of individuals who have poor personal boundaries. Witnessing behaviors that resemble those from your past can evoke memories, emotions, and reactions associated with that traumatic period.

In this context, encountering people with poor boundaries may act as triggers for you. These triggers can activate unresolved emotions, a heightened sense of vulnerability, or a need to protect yourself. It's important to recognize that your reactions are valid and understandable based on your past experiences.

To help navigate this challenge, it can be helpful to establish and communicate your own boundaries clearly with others. Focusing on self-care and implementing strategies that help you feel safe and empowered when interacting with individuals who struggle with personal boundaries is important.

If you find that the impact of these triggers on your well-being becomes overwhelming or significantly disrupts your daily life, it could be beneficial to seek support from a mental health professional who can help you further explore and address these triggers.

Remember, healing from past trauma takes time, and it's a journey that looks different for everyone. You have already demonstrated resilience by developing healthy personal boundaries, and it's important to continue prioritizing your well-being while also being understanding and patient with yourself.

If you have any further questions or concerns, please feel free to share them.