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I am devastated because it seems that while my therapist cares, it is only up to a certain point and I am under the impression that she can't always be relied on.
I recently wrote my therapist an email asking her some important questions and at I also mentioned some other stuff that wasn't really important but that I was expecting her to at least acknowledge (she usually responds to everything I write no matter how trivial and unrelated to therapy it is).
She responded with a long email answering all my questions but did not acknowledge the two other things I had mentioned regarding how my life was going which were very important to me (though trivial) and which I had forgotten to mention during our session. This is unusual for her as she usually responds to everything I write to her no matter how unrelated to therapy it is. This has caused me to become used to expecting a response and to worry whether she has more important things to attend to or doesn't really care about the things I mentioned when I do not get a response.
I mentioned how I felt during our last session and she said that she had responded the same day and was in a hurry to get a response to me because I seemed to be in distress after our session and that is why she did not acknowledge the stuff I mentioned. She also said that in the future if this happens that I should not worry as there is most likely a reason why she isn't replying. I believed her and felt better after our last session, however, I also remembered afterwards that she had also not replied to some thing I mentioned in another email in the past. The excuse she had given that time was that she was visiting her father (who lives far away).
So now I have been feeling low for the past few days because it seems like she will only listen to me or respond to my emails on her terms as opposed to being available for any questions or to listen to me. I have been feeling depressed and had to postpone posting this because of how it was making me feel.
Am I not correct in my understanding that a therapist should always treat a person the same way no matter what else is going on for them (barring extreme circumstances or emergencies) as this promotes trust? Especially when I have issues with trust in the first place and have had times where I did not feel heard as a child?
Or am I expecting too much from her? And if so why am I feeling this way?
I recently wrote my therapist an email asking her some important questions and at I also mentioned some other stuff that wasn't really important but that I was expecting her to at least acknowledge (she usually responds to everything I write no matter how trivial and unrelated to therapy it is).
She responded with a long email answering all my questions but did not acknowledge the two other things I had mentioned regarding how my life was going which were very important to me (though trivial) and which I had forgotten to mention during our session. This is unusual for her as she usually responds to everything I write to her no matter how unrelated to therapy it is. This has caused me to become used to expecting a response and to worry whether she has more important things to attend to or doesn't really care about the things I mentioned when I do not get a response.
I mentioned how I felt during our last session and she said that she had responded the same day and was in a hurry to get a response to me because I seemed to be in distress after our session and that is why she did not acknowledge the stuff I mentioned. She also said that in the future if this happens that I should not worry as there is most likely a reason why she isn't replying. I believed her and felt better after our last session, however, I also remembered afterwards that she had also not replied to some thing I mentioned in another email in the past. The excuse she had given that time was that she was visiting her father (who lives far away).
So now I have been feeling low for the past few days because it seems like she will only listen to me or respond to my emails on her terms as opposed to being available for any questions or to listen to me. I have been feeling depressed and had to postpone posting this because of how it was making me feel.
Am I not correct in my understanding that a therapist should always treat a person the same way no matter what else is going on for them (barring extreme circumstances or emergencies) as this promotes trust? Especially when I have issues with trust in the first place and have had times where I did not feel heard as a child?
Or am I expecting too much from her? And if so why am I feeling this way?