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Childhood Did you ever find out about others abused by your abuser?

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I wasn't sure when I was abused whether or not I was the only one being sexually abused. After it ended, my cousin one day told me abuser had "taken her camping". His "camping trips" were just excuses to take us out in the woods and abuse us, so when she said that, I knew what she meant. She was telling me it happened to her too. Made me wonder who else he had victimized. I had had an idea that there had been others, but until she told me that happened, I wasn't sure and didn't know who he had also abused. I knew he had hurt my other cousin, Is tried to protect her, but we had both been abused, but was unaware that there had been more than just us two until this cousin told me.
I wondered if anyone else had found out about it met others who were abused by their abuser.
 
My abuser constantly tried to get me introduce my friends to him and tried afew times to get my cousins over.. luckily my mum found out what was happening and he was arrested later on during the court hearing we found out that he was charged with the same crime when he was 17
 
I'm very sorry that happened. My abuser also tried getting me to introduce him to my friends. He actually dated one of my best friends while he was abusing me.
 
I lived my whole life thinking my sister had a "chemical imbalance" based on the stories I'd been told. She was 5 years older and we never really had much in common or a close relationship. Only to later learn in my 40s, as I was helping her through a crisis for the first time ever, that she had been sexually abused by the same bastard that stole my innocence, but our parents chose not to believe her and had her hospitalized instead. Didn't believe her when she got raped after that, wither, asking her what she did to make that happen. I'm fairly certain her only "mental illness" (prior to them getting a hold of her and doing shock treatments and pumping her full of psych meds) was one of simply telling the damn truth to a bunch of adults who'd rather not hear it.
 
I'm fairly certain her only "mental illness" ... was one of simply telling the damn truth to a bunch of adults who'd rather not hear it.
Killed me to read this. I wasn't psychiatrically mistreated, but I sure was made the problem. My family really f*cking sucked when it came to constantly asking me when I was going to stop "tearing the family apart" and "get over it."

My abuser implicated at least four other victims in my abuse. I feel absolutely certain there were others.
 
So hard hearing that you also had to experience this, I'm so sorry. My family would not stop getting mad about the abuse, asking when I was going to start sucking up and getting over it. Mom said there was no reason for me to have depression or anxiety and instead made me take a ton of meds for other stuff, ADD meds in particular. I am so sorry about your sister @Tornadic Thoughts so sad that that goes on :(
 
My sisters were also abused by my abuser. In fact, I didn't really realize what was happening was wrong until I learned about my older sister.
I feel so bad for those who were not believed when they told. I can actually remembering my mom crying with me when I told her what was happening. I don't think anyone questioned me on this until one of my abusers as an adult decided to start using it as a weapon.
 
When I remembered my abuse, and told my mom about it, and made her call the friend whose (ex)husband did it, her friend said to her, "not her too". That was the confirmation that I had that I was not the only one. He did it to his Son, as well as the neighbors children. I think I may have been the only female child, but sadly not the only.
 
I feel so sad reading this post. I know one of my abusers had other victims i did not know them but i heard there were more at one point when i was in treatment my parents let it slip that it wasn't just me they talk to his probation officer or have i never pressed charges he was arrested for something else but it made me sad that he hurt others like me and i wonder if it was like my situation or different. I have a lot of questions. also my brother abused me and he became a teacher and recently it was found out he was watching child porn so i pray everyday he didn't abuse any of the children he taught that would just make me sad for not telling and not getting him in trouble...
 
I wasn't sure when I was abused whether or not I was the only one being sexually abused. After it ended...
Rosie,
Thank you for sharing and asking this question. Unfortunately I haven't though I've often wondered if my older sister was sexually abused by my father the way I was. He never penetrated though he spooned me inappropriately as a young girl and it felt really gross at the time. I never acknowledged or told anyone until I was a young adult. My sister died when I was 4 and she was 14. I have seen pictures of my dad carrying her in his arms when she was 12 years old which struck me as an odd image to see your father treating his preteen daughter like she was a "little girl". It's an unanswered question in which I can only speculate though I've definitely questioned who else he may have done inappropriate things to.
 
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