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Do You Ever Fear That People Will Dismiss You If You Tell Them?

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So I kind of realized today that besides dealing with this, one of my fears is telling someone about it (and my triggers and how sometimes it keeps me up at night and have to sleep with a light on and about how I still have stuffed animals in my home to comfort me and how sometimes, I too afraid to even go into certain part of my home because of hyper vigilance) -- and that person (maybe even a therapist or a family member) either laughing + shrugging it off or treating me like a child.

I know that until you have your own deep trauma/event and deal with PTSD yourself, it can be hard to be fully understand how it affects a person.

Wild thing is, I had it on my calendar that in March -- after my birthday because I decided I was getting too "old" to not get more help -- I was going to start seeing a therapist, but then this current situation happened and now we're isolating/can't do certain things. I really prefer talking to a therapist in person, too many of my relationships are through computers already and I wanted one that isn't, so I don't want to do online counseling.

I also wish people would stop calling folks "crazy" if they need medication for their mental health -- some of the folks who are saying this around me seem like they could benefit from some medication themselves if they would look at themselves instead of judging. I am proud of myself for finally being so tired of it all last year that I had to go to my doctor and get anxiety/depression medication -- that took so much out of me, but it is still a victory for me.

Thank you
 
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I know that until you have your own deep trauma/event and deal with PTSD yourself, it can be hard to be fully understand how it affects a person.
You're correct, but I can assure you that not everyone lacks empathy. There are plenty of people in the world who may not have gone through trauma themselves, but will believe you and will support you, even if they don't totally get it.
 
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yep. Because of my background (military and 911) ptsd comes with an overwhelming amount of shame. It's thought of as not being able to handle your own crap, being weak, being somehow less than others, blah blah. Even after all this time I have very few people IRL who know I've been diagnosed because the stigma is so high. It's a big part of why my support group is an anonymous forum

The stigma is slowly changing, which will hopefully help in the future but for me? not so much.
 
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yep. Because of my background (military and 911) ptsd comes with an overwhelming amount of shame. It's thought of as not being able to handle your own crap, being weak, being somehow less than others, blah blah. Even after all this time I have very few people IRL who know I've been diagnosed because the stigma is so high. It's a big part of why my support group is an anonymous forum

The stigma is slowly changing, which will hopefully help in the future but for me? not so much.
I have my dog so I’m not hiding it anymore. If they don’t like it then they can kiss my ass. Until they walk a day in someone else’s shoes then they need to be quiet. We all fight everyday to try to do what has to be done. I would love to see some of the people that think it’s a weakness to do some of the things I have done and not suffer something from it. I would love to see how they reacted to being in Afghanistan buying opium or heroine by the semi-truck load where everyone has a gun and no problem killing you. Or in Mexico and South America buying marijuana and cocaine by the airplane load. Then going in and raiding them after the sale where people will die that you send in. The first time someone put a gun to their head after you just watched them shoot someone stealing product. Most people would shit themselves. That was a normal day in my life for 12 years before I just burnt out. So now that I have had my rant for the day I would love to see the “strong” people put up with what we endure everyday..😬😬😬
 
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have my dog so I’m not hiding it anymore.
I got mine while I was still working but all I would tell people was that he was an alert dog. Several of them were super pissed because they wanted the whole story. They didn't give a crap about what was happening with me....they just wanted to be in the know. It was really disheartening. Not surprising...just disheartening.
 
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I got mine while I was still working but all I would tell people was that he was an alert dog. Several of them were super pissed because they wanted the whole story. They didn't give a crap about what was happening with me....they just wanted to be in the know. It was really disheartening. Not surprising...just disheartening.
It is because I know those same people are like family while working together but then they scatter when you are no longer in the group. Which from my side with DEA you may be out of country if on there special response teams. Obama administration killed the FAST teams after someone got wind of some people being killed in Honduras during a cocaine raid. That was Hillary Clinton with the state department that didn’t like the covert side of it. We worked side by side with army special forces and navy seals and went thru their training. Was only 50 of us for the whole agency and worked in 10 man teams so were very close.
 
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