The friends I've had commit suicide did it with guns. I don't know if that's "conventional" or not. It was "small t" traumatic, for me, because I loved them and lost them and I don't think they were in a place there was no coming back from. I know they thought that at the time. It bothers me that they didn't get the help they needed, and deserved, to survive. I guess I don't think of their suicides as selfish because I know they weren't selfish people and I know that's not what they were feeling at the time. But, do I think they made good choices? HELL NO. In fact, I think things could have been different. As it was, they didn't get lucky when it came to getting help, and luck was all it was.Someone killing themselves on their own is seen as selfish and traumatizing to others because they do have to do it in unconventional ways.
The boy that was in the same abuse situation as me overdosed when he was 20. I'm now 10 years older than he was when he died. I can't tell you if he made the "right" decision or not because pain is subjective. Sometimes people just know when they can't go on. Does that mean that everyone surviving agrees with it? No.'ll agree that there's a time and a place. I don't think I can agree that the person who walks to the edge of the cliff is necessarily in a position to make a good choice, in the moment.