In addition to the abuse, My family was very dysfunctional. They would likely be a slightly more severe form of dysfunction.
One of my T's could predict very quickly how it was at home just based on the sexual abuse because of the fact that it goes within Dysfunctional family. I wonder if this is mislabeled though.
It should usually be termed Dysfunctional Parenting when children are young and Family when the children are now parents or adults and perpetuating the behaviors in their new group or family.
I seem to have picked up opposite type of behaviors within this list: helicopter parenting and perfectionism. Helicopter parenting: (I don't allow my two children to bicker or fight because it's triggering to me; I banish all aggression or conflict). Perfectionism: (I thought I got rid of this in myself, but I see that I now project it! I don't let my kids participate in very much, partly due to being over-protective and fatigued, since I won't just let them be around other adults without my being present and I don't have the time, money, or energy for much. But I also don't want them doing thing they are not naturally good at. Again, I rationalize this. I overprotect from failure and its pain. I also have not liked paying for a bunch of "stuff" that they then tire of and I can't sell. It's frustrating.)
But at least I don't do the worse things that my parents did. I wish I didn't have any of these. I probably need to process my fears more with my PTSD and find ways to allow my kids to have more freedom to argue, fight, and participate in hobbies and social things. The problem is that I need a strengthening to my sense of self to project a rosier belief of the world. But I know it can be "faked until made".
Here's the Dysfunctional Family (actually quite informative for Wikipedia) article: Dysfunctional family - Wikipedia
One of my T's could predict very quickly how it was at home just based on the sexual abuse because of the fact that it goes within Dysfunctional family. I wonder if this is mislabeled though.
It should usually be termed Dysfunctional Parenting when children are young and Family when the children are now parents or adults and perpetuating the behaviors in their new group or family.
I seem to have picked up opposite type of behaviors within this list: helicopter parenting and perfectionism. Helicopter parenting: (I don't allow my two children to bicker or fight because it's triggering to me; I banish all aggression or conflict). Perfectionism: (I thought I got rid of this in myself, but I see that I now project it! I don't let my kids participate in very much, partly due to being over-protective and fatigued, since I won't just let them be around other adults without my being present and I don't have the time, money, or energy for much. But I also don't want them doing thing they are not naturally good at. Again, I rationalize this. I overprotect from failure and its pain. I also have not liked paying for a bunch of "stuff" that they then tire of and I can't sell. It's frustrating.)
But at least I don't do the worse things that my parents did. I wish I didn't have any of these. I probably need to process my fears more with my PTSD and find ways to allow my kids to have more freedom to argue, fight, and participate in hobbies and social things. The problem is that I need a strengthening to my sense of self to project a rosier belief of the world. But I know it can be "faked until made".
Here's the Dysfunctional Family (actually quite informative for Wikipedia) article: Dysfunctional family - Wikipedia