For me, anything that looked or smelled like kindness towards myself was fraught with emotional backlash. I gave up trying for self compassion and stuck with self-neutral to avoid the overwhelming distress that came with self compassion.So for me doing what’s in my body’s best interests triggers the self-judgement that I’m just like my dad.
So you had framed recovery as outside of the self-compassion/care/love paradigm? Was it more on the grounds of neutral that you spoke about earlier?But I could grasp that I was committed to trying to recover, and eating falls nicely into the various things I did each day for their therapeutic benefit.
Yes, I can see this being a possible outcome which would make healing a massive double bind. Somehow one would have to dissociate from anything that was anything to do with caring and kindness. Massive challenge, yes. I see it. Thanks @SidewaysWhen I went through the list and realised there were kind things I was already doing for myself (like drinking water), I had a major meltdown.
Very wise words., I can see this being a possible outcome which would make healing a massive double bind. Somehow one would have to dissociate from anything that was anything to do with caring and kindness. Massive challenge, yes. I see i
Yes, @Sideways, you did an excellent job putting this into words. Thanks so much for this.feel better myself that someone else could put it in to words
Extremely challenging @OliveJewel, with a double bind around this. Sounds like @Sideways has learned how to navigate around this. I wish you peace and strength in this.Hope you are feeling a bit more understood @OliveJewel , not an easy battle.
Appreciate the support and validation. I understand what you are saying about neutral and it’s something to shoot for. What is thought diffusion?And when my head wanted to start trying to spin the "but this is self compassion - you are evil" line? I used thought diffusion, rather than trying to overcome my issues with eating/nutrition and self compassion in one go.
It's something which is typically taught with ACT. And there's a lot of ways you can do it. It's essentially taking a thought, which you know you have a lot but isn't useful to you, and reminding yourself "this is just a thought, I don't actually have to pay any attention to it".What is thought diffusion?
Yep, exactly. Committing to trying my best to recover was something I could grasp because I framed it in terms of healing from sickness. I'e always been able to appreciate that regardless of how shit I feel, the science is that (1) this is an illness; and (2) the majority of people recover from that illness.So you had framed recovery as outside of the self-compassion/care/love paradigm? Was it more on the grounds of neutral that you spoke about earlier?