This ☝️long story short ---
It helps you reframe how you think of things. It doesn't erase the memory, it changes how you feel about the memory
Take a mid level bad memory. When you think about it now it makes you want to puke, scares the crap out of you, makes you want to cry, blah blah. After emdr it becomes just a sad event in your past that you can think about without reacting
That's the good news
The bad news is that it can be brutal and takes some pre-planning to be successful.
You are going to be looking at memories - kind of like watching a movie that smacks you in the head. So first your t will help you create a safe place in your brain so if things get rough you can escape there. Someplace like a beach, or safe house, or a comfy room, any place that makes you happy.
It can be really overwhelming at times so it is critical that you are honest with your t. Not necessarily about the memory itself, but about how the processing is making you feel both during the session and afterwards. If it's too much she can tweak it down a few notches. You never want to try to white knuckle thru emdr - it will just make you miserable and slow the process down. It's good to try to plan no or only low key things to do for the next 12 hours or so, because your brain will keep processing even after the session and that can be freaking exhausting
So if it tough why do it?
Because when it works it is amazing!!!
All those things just .... no longer matter.
They go from being todays nightmares to being things that happend a long time ago.