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Message: <blockquote data-quote="joeylittle" data-source="post: 1761344" data-attributes="member: 25135">Might be useful to remember, when you're thinking about this - you were coming in with a sense of pressure already, because of the shortened session.  It wouldn't surprise me if your speech was rushed - you had 90 minutes' worth of session you'd planned in your mind, but only 60 minutes to get them done in.  You were also trying to be mindful of leaving time for discussing these issues - another reason you may have been going quickly.  It's very natural that you'd then feel annoyed when there are disruptions, and then she observes that you're 'plowing' through information....which is probably what you're doing - but only so that you can get all of the things in that you'd like to talk about.  I'm not saying this with criticism towards you or towards her.  Just that it's likely both her perception AND your perception are both accurate, and both valid.  It doesn't necessarily mean you're not on the same page in the big scheme of things.I don't think it's useful to focus on the list - that would be a distraction.I think you've said a few different ways what's truly bothering you - it's something along the lines of this:Yes.  I'd observe also that you're uncomfortable with some of the ways your interaction with her is (or has become) casual...You mentioned earlier feeling worried/concerned that she's relying on you to make accommodations for her because you've been a client for such a long time.  (Sorry, can't find the passage where you said it).  I think it would be pretty straightforward to move past these feelings and re-establish the therapeutic alliance, if you wanted to.Do you still want to end the therapy instead of doing that?  Or, for you, is it more important that you try and work through the stuff in all this that's about how you've been affected by it?  I could see that being useful, but also, can see how it just all adds up to, this relationship has run its course.  Reflecting on your thread title - painful for who?Just a weird question - and I'm genuinely curious - after further consideration, do you know more about why this gesture had this effect?  You're clear that you were already feeling 'off', and this made it worse...do you feel like you understand what her turning off the camera meant, for you?Just wondering - if you consider that your take on the session and her take are not mutually exclusive, and therefore not representative of being on very different pages - do you still feel like ending therapy with her?</blockquote>

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