Sunshine71
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Hi fellow PTSD supporters
I haven't posted for a long time. I am based in the UK....
Well lockdown stopped my husbands work - he is a freelance photographer.... he got some government support and focused on doing things in the house and fitness - which is great... he lost 4 stone and felt good.
However work things are starting to move forward again - but not for him. He hates going out to find work - he wants it just to come to him. He doesn't like networking and although not just sitting around I am starting to be concerned.
Some of my clients/ contacts would like photos and he hasn't even replied to emails I have copied him in to.
The dark nights are fast approaching and I don't think the government support will be as much - I am worried about his mental health going down.... and mine too tbh....
However on top of that - I have put on weight, as I am the breadwinner I have not stopped working - luckily my freelance work has been super busy - but to the point that I feel burnt out. I would love some time out - but hardly had any over the past 2 years if not more - working everyday until late.
I have tried talking about this with him and he gets angry - he says wishes he had more work...... I have suggested ways to pivot his work ... we talked about this a year ago and he did nothing about it ....
So I am tired, I am worried as the summer disappears he will feel depressed - he is focusing on his fitness again - while I am really not able to spend much time as I have to work to pay all of the bills and have a nice lifestyle.
Do I just say/do nothing and let him just do what he is doing? Do I say more and run the risk of him flaring up? He is feeling upset now....
When he gets upset this causes flashbacks, black moods ...... its horrible.
I would like some good time out - together! But I am just working working working and exhausted..... we have been together nearly 30 years! I just want to have a good life together....
I would really welcome any advice.
With love - Sunshine x
I haven't posted for a long time. I am based in the UK....
Well lockdown stopped my husbands work - he is a freelance photographer.... he got some government support and focused on doing things in the house and fitness - which is great... he lost 4 stone and felt good.
However work things are starting to move forward again - but not for him. He hates going out to find work - he wants it just to come to him. He doesn't like networking and although not just sitting around I am starting to be concerned.
Some of my clients/ contacts would like photos and he hasn't even replied to emails I have copied him in to.
The dark nights are fast approaching and I don't think the government support will be as much - I am worried about his mental health going down.... and mine too tbh....
However on top of that - I have put on weight, as I am the breadwinner I have not stopped working - luckily my freelance work has been super busy - but to the point that I feel burnt out. I would love some time out - but hardly had any over the past 2 years if not more - working everyday until late.
I have tried talking about this with him and he gets angry - he says wishes he had more work...... I have suggested ways to pivot his work ... we talked about this a year ago and he did nothing about it ....
So I am tired, I am worried as the summer disappears he will feel depressed - he is focusing on his fitness again - while I am really not able to spend much time as I have to work to pay all of the bills and have a nice lifestyle.
Do I just say/do nothing and let him just do what he is doing? Do I say more and run the risk of him flaring up? He is feeling upset now....
When he gets upset this causes flashbacks, black moods ...... its horrible.
I would like some good time out - together! But I am just working working working and exhausted..... we have been together nearly 30 years! I just want to have a good life together....
I would really welcome any advice.
With love - Sunshine x