Feeling Defeated Mentally. How do you pick yourself up when it feels like you're at the end of your rope?

[Kasey865]

I have been going through a rough time for a while. I have been trying to get therapy, but it seems like I'm screaming in a crowd and no one hears me..

 

[IBeliveInYou]

Hey @Kasey865, I am sorry that you have such a hard time.
Its good to see that you have the will to ask for help, with this you reached an important milestone :)

Are you struggeling to find the right T for you? Are you talking to somebody about your situation?

 

[Kasey865]

@IBeliveInYou i am struggling to find someone to see me. Also yes I do have someone I reach out to in these times.

 

[arfie]

i nurse the condition as, "psychic flu." as with physical flu, i accept that the symptoms are going to have me out of commission for however long it takes for nature to run her course and keep my expectations realistic on just how much i can accomplish while the fever, et al, is raging. lots of rest, fluids and soft foods. during my lucid moments, i remind myself to give the convalescence enough time to rebuild my immune system. i strive to be gentle with myself and patient with the process.

 

[Kasey865]

Thank you for bringing a different perspective. I really struggle with taking the time to allow myself to not be okay without feeling hopeless. @arfie

 

[IBeliveInYou]

@Kasey865 I imagine it very complicated to find a T while beeing heavy symptomatic. Anyone around who can help you with that?

 

[Kasey865]

my exs mom is very involved in trying to get me help. But im also experiencing medical issues as well which makes it even more complicated. @IBeliveInYou

 

[IBeliveInYou]

Okey good to hear that.
While reading post in this forum you will find many messages of people who say that sometimes its just impossible to seek help because everything else is to much.
Its good that you have the will but as long you don`t feel strong enough you don`t need to stress yourself. Maybe there are some things you can do for yourself to improve your situation right now? Some grounding activitys that take some stress from you? Take one step at the time, day by day :)

I wish you all the best :)

 

[Freddyt]

It usually happen when I spend too much time ruminating AND I'm way up the suds scale.

It makes everything more immediate - like there is nothing but now. It's part of the survival thing that we all live with. The closer you get to overload the more likely hyper whatever is to happening because your brain thinks you are in mortal danger too.

Physical ailments just add to this.

Stress management and breaking the rumination cycle help.

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[arfie]

I really struggle with taking the time to allow myself to not be okay without feeling hopeless.

gentle empathy on this score. my psychotic reflex is to expect super hero performance of myself and to beat myself unmercifully when i have to settle for being merely human. it helps me to think of those hopeless moments as, "psychic flu." as with physical flu, i need to ply lots of extra self-care and not take the fever dementia too seriously. as i begin to recover, i remind myself to take some extra time and care to let my immune system rebuild itself after the ordeal.

lots of rest, fluids and soft foods, kasey. be gentle with yourself and patient with the process.