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Feeling guilty for taking space and time for myself


Does anyone else feel like that enforcing boundaries and/or taking time to for yourself makes you feel guilty? I still care about my friends and amily but I feel that sometimes I don't have enough energy/time to answer them immediately and I look their social media postings when I have the energy and time for it. They have my number and I will check my phone and sms messages regularly. I just sometimes feel a bit overwhelmed to check social media and/or let's say news
posilutely, boundaries and self-care set my guilt demons to snarling, every time. the good news is that i'm getting better at disregarding their insistent snarls that any thought for myself is selfish and "unattractive." i fully see and understand that boundaries are a vital part of healthy relationships and self-care gives me more care to give, but those psycho demons are ? ? ? psychotic? and worthy of conscientious disregard.

for what it's worth
i take media fasts when i start to the whelming of tech demands. it helps clear the thoughts and get in touch with my strictly personal center.
Oh I'd definitely limit the news @abovedown , as rarely is anything positive covered. Especially if you are run down and exhausted.

I find it hard with boundaries too, but they are critical, and make for happier times and health. Idk if you are similar to me. Do you feel like you're letting people down, or that you already do let them down and don't want to add to it? Or feel 'the moment' has to be a 'yes', even if there are many moments? Or feel obligated (eg work).

I think one thing for sure, it won't change relationships except for the better (provided you communicate). But anyone who doesn't respect them if they know better and doesn't like that, isn't thinking of what you need- and that's 1/2 of the equation and isn't much aware of your needs if not. It is not selfish. The oxygen mask 1st is because otherwise you'd pass out.

Hope you get a break and rejuvenate. Plus self care. Hugs to you.
PS Sorry I missed the edit, was thinking this is only the 2nd or 3rd Rememberance Day (out here) I ever missed. Not blaming anyone at all, but it reminds me that not setting boundaries (also in the sense of prioritizing needs) let's myself/ ourselves down too. The balance , care and respect are necessary.

Not sure if that helps.