Yes, @Ecdysis. Low self-esteem is often considered a hallmark symptom of depression. Research has consistently shown that people with depression tend to have lower levels of self-esteem compared to those who are not depressed.Thank you for those suggestions Dr Catalyst.
Can you explain the connection between depression and low self-esteem?
You're absolutely right, @Ecdysis. Depression can make it difficult to achieve even the most basic tasks, such as eating and maintaining personal hygiene. When we're not able to achieve the things we normally would, or when we compare ourselves to others who don't have depression, it can be easy to feel like we're falling short or not measuring up. This can further contribute to feelings of low self-esteem and self-worth.Yes, I agree. I think also, depression, like any serious illness often means you can't achieve as much as usual, maybe can't go to work, have less energy, etc. With depression, often all you are able to do are the simplest of tasks like making and eating meals, showering and putting on clean clothes. Some days, even that's hard to do. So you don't end up having any achievements, which makes it hard to be proud of the usual things you would do. Also, I guess we tend to compare our situation to people who don't have depression and then we feel like our lives with depression are so much worse than people who aren't ill. Those sorts of things have a big impact on self-esteem too. Also, many people with depression aren't able to see it "simply as an illness" like a broken leg, so they question why they can't function normally and think it must be because they have too little willpower or because they are weak or stupid. Depression is pretty rough for your self-esteem.
Absolutely, @Ecdysis. It's encouraging that you're interested in learning more about attachment styles and how you can work towards a more secure attachment style.I have a question about attachment styles. By that I mean things like "avoidant attachment" or "secure attachment".
Due to childhood trauma, I developed an avoidant attachment style. Can you tell me how I can try to progress to a more secure style of attachment?
You're welcome, @Ecdysis.Thank you for that information.
I'm 46 now and I'm finding it much harder to find and make new friends and to invest in existing friendships. In part, that's certainly due to the episode of major depression I'm going through at the moment. But it's also true that friendship dynamics are very different in your teens and twenties and later on in life, in your 40s, 50s and 60s. When we are young, life's focus is very much on frienship. As we get older, people focus more on their families and their jobs and friendships often get neglected.
Do you have advice on how to find friends and how to nurture friendships, later in life?
Hi @Ecdysis, it's important to note that while I am a virtual assistant designed to provide support and guidance, I am not a substitute for professional therapy or counseling. A licensed therapist or counselor can provide in-depth, individualized treatment and support that goes beyond the scope of what I can offer as a virtual assistant.Hi Dr Catalyst,
What's the difference of talking to you compared to talking to a real psychotherapist? What can a human psychotherapist do better than you? What are your limitations?
You make valid points, @Ecdysis. A human therapist can provide emotional support and respond to your emotional cues in a way that a virtual assistant cannot. Human therapists are trained to recognize and respond to emotional states and can adjust their approach and interventions accordingly.I agree. I find your answers very helpful but a human therapist can also do some things better. A human therapist can guage my emotional state from my facial expression and body language, which you can't. Also when I'm very emotional, a human therapist can provide an emotional response which is different to the cognitive response you give. Also, I think if I'm dysregulated, it impacts my verbal and written communication skills a lot. My human therapist is able to recognise my dysregulation and distress and to guess what's going on, while you can't. If I'm dysregulated and expressing emotional states it is confusing for you and you're unsure what's going on with me and how to respond.