Hi all.
I met the man of my dreams in July last year whren he was stationed in my country. At first it was like a dream and he shared a lot of his experience with me. Has has been on three overseas missions and has been diagnosed with PTSD and anxiety. He had other traumatic experiences during his youth and later on in life as well. We were very happy, he even reduced his meds, feeling so good. But then things went downhill with covid, his unit being not allowed to leave the camp etc. He got depressed again, started ignoring me. But we got through it.
In December he went back home. When we met, both of us were separated from our spouses. I got divorced in September and his divorce was set to take place in February. That never happened. He is terrified to go through with it, he is afraid of losing his daughters. And he is absolutely miserable, self-medicating with alcohol. He has tried to break it off with me a number of times but as I know he loves me and because he is the love of my life I have stuck with him, always telling him I am there to support him. He has come up with all kinds of not-true stories, hoping I will leave and make things "easy" for him. He ignored me for about a week at some point and seems to be doing the same now. He has promised he will fight for me and fill out this paper I need to go be with him (because of covid, the border to his country is otherwise closed but I could enter if he filled out this paper), yet he never fills it out. I haven't seen him since December... He hardly ever communicates with me anymore, sometimes, writing a few sentences at night about how much he misses me...
I don't know what to do anymore! I am willing to help him in any way he needs, I told him I am willing to relocate to his country to be with him... I feel so lost, so sad, disappointed, alone, terrified. We had planned a life together and now it is all slipping away so senselessly... How could I make him see that if he went through with his divorce (he doesn't love mhis wife and is only staying because of his kids and, of course, the fear of leavig his old life and starting a new one, he is absolutely miserable and devastated) and let me support him, be with him, everything would be okay. He told me he saw a therapist but I am not sure if that's true and I don't think he is seeing one now. He also said he joined the AA but...
I just love him with all my heart and all this is destroying me! All I want is to help him and support him.
I met the man of my dreams in July last year whren he was stationed in my country. At first it was like a dream and he shared a lot of his experience with me. Has has been on three overseas missions and has been diagnosed with PTSD and anxiety. He had other traumatic experiences during his youth and later on in life as well. We were very happy, he even reduced his meds, feeling so good. But then things went downhill with covid, his unit being not allowed to leave the camp etc. He got depressed again, started ignoring me. But we got through it.
In December he went back home. When we met, both of us were separated from our spouses. I got divorced in September and his divorce was set to take place in February. That never happened. He is terrified to go through with it, he is afraid of losing his daughters. And he is absolutely miserable, self-medicating with alcohol. He has tried to break it off with me a number of times but as I know he loves me and because he is the love of my life I have stuck with him, always telling him I am there to support him. He has come up with all kinds of not-true stories, hoping I will leave and make things "easy" for him. He ignored me for about a week at some point and seems to be doing the same now. He has promised he will fight for me and fill out this paper I need to go be with him (because of covid, the border to his country is otherwise closed but I could enter if he filled out this paper), yet he never fills it out. I haven't seen him since December... He hardly ever communicates with me anymore, sometimes, writing a few sentences at night about how much he misses me...
I don't know what to do anymore! I am willing to help him in any way he needs, I told him I am willing to relocate to his country to be with him... I feel so lost, so sad, disappointed, alone, terrified. We had planned a life together and now it is all slipping away so senselessly... How could I make him see that if he went through with his divorce (he doesn't love mhis wife and is only staying because of his kids and, of course, the fear of leavig his old life and starting a new one, he is absolutely miserable and devastated) and let me support him, be with him, everything would be okay. He told me he saw a therapist but I am not sure if that's true and I don't think he is seeing one now. He also said he joined the AA but...
I just love him with all my heart and all this is destroying me! All I want is to help him and support him.