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Feeling shaky during argument...

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Rani G2

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I'm trying very hard to work on this issue. Listening to Audiobooks, reading, going to the Gym, Selfdefense etc. BUT I have this issue with "adrenaline rush" during confronting someone. It depends on the person but I get shaky and I find this very hard to deal with. I am aware of the fight/ flight/ freeze mode and how our organism reacts if something is threatening.
Now I feel that I am repairing on the outer like developing more awareness on breathing, Doing yoga BUT not going to the source of that feeling. That feeling arises from being hurt as a child and yes this is a long process which takes place in. while doing therapy but I just cannot change this shakiness. Its bothering me
 
I get that too.
My work involved alot of agressive and violent people, 1moment i was talking and helping someone who tried to kill him/herself, the next me or my coworkers got atacked by someone and had to fight or physically or verbally control someone. I never had any problems with it. I loved the unpredictable days. I was very good at switching between behaviors from others. But then tbi and ptsd came into my life. Now i start to shake and my heartrate and breathing changes when in arguements. Even when i am not in it myself, just hearing others will do it. Cant stand people walking up to me either... I see danger in every person... Hate the shaking too.
 
1moment i was talking and helping someone who tried to kill him/herself, the next me or my coworkers got atacked by someone and had to fight or physically or verbally control someone

Thanks Lilyrose for writing. Thats a very tough Job! Definitely! You used to love it? Woaa...
I work with patients so they can be rude at times. I sometimes get aggressive but I must control myself... so I do tell or talk back but it feels like a battleground as if I am walking on a minefield.
My mother was beaten while she was pregnant with me almost everyday , after that I had to run into fights between them because he tried to k** her. So my Central nervous system needs constant slowing down.
What are you trying so far to get back to a somewhat "normal" state?
 
I never used to get mad over anything. People could hurt me and i reacted but never really got upset. Always stayed calm. In the last few years i ve been called agressive too. I get angry and upset very easily.
Im sorry you had to grow up like that. It must have been hard. I had one time as a kid my brother lost it and treatened my mom and wrecked the house completely. I had to listen to it with my sister. My neighbour stopped us from going in. Still feel guilty.
I really don't know how to get back to normal. At the moment i am avoiding everyone and everything. I am in a really bad place myself right now so i am sorry i have no advice.
 
BUT I have this issue with "adrenaline rush" during confronting someone.
I used to get this too - even before my trauma. I think it's a pretty typical response for anxious people as well as people with trauma. I don't get it very badly IRL much anymore for some reason - maybe I just stopped caring as much - but I still get it when I fight with people over the internet.
 
maybe I just stopped caring as much - but I still get it when I fight with people over the internet.

Thanks Somerandomguy! I know what you mean....
Not caring much is maybe a progress?
I am emotionally quite unstable right now. As a kid when another kid hit me I use to always fight back with my fists... I was bought up saying if someone kicks a** always Do something to show that you have power... the only thing is that this doesnt always serve me good and I usually end up feeling miserable.

Do something to show that you have power... t

I dont abuse others....sorry if this sounded strange. Just trying to learn how to be assertive in a good way.
 
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It’s a simple trick, but try pitching your voice.

Higher or lower doesn’t really matter. As long as you’re not getting all girly high or mannish low (which both convey tones). Just a half step higher than you usually speak, or a half step lower.

It adds a filter of control, which is often enough to sooth both internal anxiety, and to project calm authority instead of emotionally coloured/shaky/wavery.
 
Thank you Friday. As always with clarity.

If you know a simple trick to stop the heart race plus the shallow breathing? :-)

Thanks and TC
 
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