Wish I had your financial instincts. Only thing I'm good at is getting insurance settlements from accidents I didn't cause.Moving from Disaster Response
20 years ago… I went to school.
I’d tried several other changes before I had a family, each time gradually shifting gears from hyper-violent to more safe-sane, but having a baby meant …a lot of things… amongst which that I now had expenses up to my eyeballs. I had to do SOME kind of work, couldn’t imagine WTF else I would/could do, and anything I was even remotely qualified to do outside of Contracting/ K&R/ NGO/ DisasterResponse? Wouldn’t even pay for childcare. I’d literally being paying to work some kind of McCrappy job I hated… which forced me to look outside of traditional “I need a job” options. So damn glad it did.
University created a middle ground, where I found new bearings.
I only had to cover 10 hours of childcare per week (instead of 50+), and writing for grants/scholarships meant that after the first year I didn’t even have to take out student loans & still cleared 50k a year after tuition and other school expenses were paid. In addition? There were student benefits up the wazoo (part of my financial aid package included paying HIS preschool tuition, and would have covered up to about half of private k-12 schooling. Neither of which I’d have been able to afford; as well as countless other things that really took that 50k and about doubled it).
It took me a couple years to really wrap my head around what I wanted to do, and how I was going to get there… but once I did? It suited me right on down to the ground, tied in the best parts of my old life, and was something I neeeeeeever could have imagined myself doing.
That's absolutely miserable. I know for a fact you're not alone there.I was in a similar position until recently. I LOVE being a nurse but the stress of COVID triggered my PTSD and it became impossible to manage on my own. I felt so overwhelmed and trapped. I was still able to do the job well but it got so bad that I had a plan to end my life. It was a job I loved previously but it was so bad that I had panic attacks when I got up and then in the parking lot before I could go in. I felt so struck because I couldn't imagine what else I could do with my life. I have been in health care for over half my life.
Great wife! Mine's pretty awesome too. I'm a PA. Long history, long story, but I have some crazy experience, but don't fit neatly into a box. The bulk of my experience was working in a remote bush hospital in West Africa. Daily pediatric codes, too much malaria, too much multisystem trauma, too much death, and i had too much responsibility. When i agreed to take the position, I thought I was just going to be doing some primary care stuff, you know, like blood pressure management, diabetes, maybe some intestinal infections. I had a background in critical care, emergency, and surgery, but again... not. a. doctor. But when i got there, they took a look at my CV and decided I WAS a doctor. Next thing I know, I'm the hospitalist, intensivist, ortho and trauma surgeon.I hope you have a therapist to help you work through it all. If you don't have one, get started looking. I am not sure where you work in health care. I have found that with COVID there are new jobs. I never thought I could work from home but I ended up in a work from home job on the admin side creating policies, supporting teams with education. It took me a year to work my way out but just knowing I had a plan really helped make my former job easier to handle. I included my wife in the conversation and she surprised me with how supportive she was. She told me that even if we had to sell the house, move somewhere cheaper, etc... She wanted me happy and not tortured. It took me a long time to work my way into the conversation with her.
Gotta tell ya, just saying that is meaningful. Thank you!I am sorry you are going through this. It is awful. I wish I could help in some way.
If you can stomach it check into some of the big health care organizations. My (PA) friends who were in immediate care type clinics really got the shaft. They were worked so hard. But the PAs in clinics had it easy. I harbor some resentment both for how hard they worked me and for how hard their counterparts Work while they complained about EIGHT patients a day and minimal inbasket. That’s a big organization though and we were all so scared they would leave that we did whatever they wanted.That's absolutely miserable. I know for a fact you're not alone there.
Great wife! Mine's pretty awesome too. I'm a PA. Long history, long story, but I have some crazy experience, but don't fit neatly into a box. The bulk of my experience was working in a remote bush hospital in West Africa. Daily pediatric codes, too much malaria, too much multisystem trauma, too much death, and i had too much responsibility. When i agreed to take the position, I thought I was just going to be doing some primary care stuff, you know, like blood pressure management, diabetes, maybe some intestinal infections. I had a background in critical care, emergency, and surgery, but again... not. a. doctor. But when i got there, they took a look at my CV and decided I WAS a doctor. Next thing I know, I'm the hospitalist, intensivist, ortho and trauma surgeon.
When COVID hit, I had just arrived home. I was emotionally exhausted, and physically weak. I moved back to my home town, little rural community, and took a job in an urgent care, thinking I was gonna be able to just take it easy, treat some sniffles and ingrown toenails. But all the primary docs closed their doors, refused to see anyone with a runny nose, so my tiny little 4 room clinic became an extension of the local ER and primary care office for the surrounding communities. I went from seeing maybe 20 patients a day to seeing over a hundred a day. I wasn't ready for that. Timing sucks. Haven't really been able to come up for air since. So, I get it... my heart goes out to ya.
Gotta tell ya, just saying that is meaningful. Thank you!
Are there any thoroughly burned out, hate my job, but can't imagine doing anything else people looking for the exit but can't jump ship because you've got a family to support? If so, what's your exit strategy?
To clarify: letting go of logical thinking.I was recently in a position I hated... with no clear way out. I am making my own way, and it is gradually building. The money will soon come; I am okay for today.
It's day by day, and trust. Letting go of the big picture and logical thinking helped me.