I have a history of childhood sexual abuse and later a rape. Recently I told a close friend, who knows my history and has been a huge support, that I was groped. This friend greatly minimized the groping. This friend is more concerned with contacting the person who groped me to warn him to stop groping women or he will get in trouble then he has concern for me. He does know the person who groped me. But knows me better. I’m shocked and feel so betrayed. I told him I don’t care about warning the groper to stop. It happens the person who groped me is famous. I told my friend if I wanted to tell the assualter how I felt I would have and he is not to mention my name! He tried to put this groping in the same category as a guy telling a dirty joke on the job!!! This happened a couple years ago. I go to a dance studio and the person that groped me is coming to the studio to give a seminar. So my friend asks why this “still bothers me since it happened a couple years ago!” I said because one doesn’t get over it! And the abuser is coming to the dance studio for the first time since it happened . This type of thing went on until I ended the conversation! I’m so hurt and feel betrayed. I did tell my friend later that I felt my friend minimized what I told him. He denied that and says he didn’t that he heard me but then goes on to say more of the same as earlier! Part of me thinks maybe my friend is right and I shouldn’t still bother me. But I know it’s ok and normal that it still bothers me! I want to tell my friend I feel betrayed but don’t know how or if I should or how to word it.