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So, one thing I've noticed about this pandemic is that my well-balanced friends, whom I rely on for advice, some are acting just plain weird....unpredictable as their anxiety is up..... I can't be the only one who is getting unexpected responses from people they rely on..., so I'll share my friends experiences-and you can share and example of weird conflicts that you don't think would happen in a non-pandemic time. Some interactions, when I look back.....are ridiculously funny. Others....the outcome is not so funny.....is is worrisome.
I'll go first:
I started the 10ft Walking Club and invited my friend. My friend A., a true blue rule follower is good with 1 hr. of walking exercise (because the rules say we can) and she and I both are comfortable with 10ft, not 6. I had invited her to my 10ft. Walking Club......because I was in desperate need of exercise, a schedule, and some socialization.....We agree to brown bag dinner afterwards-seated 10-12ft apart. We walked, and that was fine. I had brought my bag. She moves some chairs around outside....looking really anxious... and she tells me she just can't bring herself to "eat" because that's feels like "breaking the rules." So, I said okay.... I climbed in my car, super miffed at an awkward moment, and ate in the car on the way home......Several days later, I that same friend, came to my house for the 10ft Club walk. We had a good walk. When we were finishing up, I said I was collecting wood for my fire ring. I was planning to cook out over the fire....maybe toast some marshmallows...maybe do smores. I was looking for someone hopefully to join me in a couple of weeks- and said, of course 10-12 ft away. The chocolate lover immediately took over.....and most unexpectedly she happily replies, "Well, if we both bring our own stick, marshmallows, and other stuff, I think that would be safe!" I got a chuckle inside that day. When it was chocolate, and she's a major chocolate lover, ...somehow the social rules didn't matter!
I know everyone's cortisol levels are running high, we have lots of people hyper-aroused/hyper-vigilant, and they aren't being really consistent in their logic. You have any experiences of friends, family, or otherwise not making sense, doing things they normally wouldn't, or changing behavior from their usual self.....I'm trying to roll with this.....and expect less right now....from even the most sensible friends. Tell your experience with your own, or other's behaviors....esp. if they aren't being logical from one moment to the next. I'd really like to hear!
I'll go first:
I started the 10ft Walking Club and invited my friend. My friend A., a true blue rule follower is good with 1 hr. of walking exercise (because the rules say we can) and she and I both are comfortable with 10ft, not 6. I had invited her to my 10ft. Walking Club......because I was in desperate need of exercise, a schedule, and some socialization.....We agree to brown bag dinner afterwards-seated 10-12ft apart. We walked, and that was fine. I had brought my bag. She moves some chairs around outside....looking really anxious... and she tells me she just can't bring herself to "eat" because that's feels like "breaking the rules." So, I said okay.... I climbed in my car, super miffed at an awkward moment, and ate in the car on the way home......Several days later, I that same friend, came to my house for the 10ft Club walk. We had a good walk. When we were finishing up, I said I was collecting wood for my fire ring. I was planning to cook out over the fire....maybe toast some marshmallows...maybe do smores. I was looking for someone hopefully to join me in a couple of weeks- and said, of course 10-12 ft away. The chocolate lover immediately took over.....and most unexpectedly she happily replies, "Well, if we both bring our own stick, marshmallows, and other stuff, I think that would be safe!" I got a chuckle inside that day. When it was chocolate, and she's a major chocolate lover, ...somehow the social rules didn't matter!
I know everyone's cortisol levels are running high, we have lots of people hyper-aroused/hyper-vigilant, and they aren't being really consistent in their logic. You have any experiences of friends, family, or otherwise not making sense, doing things they normally wouldn't, or changing behavior from their usual self.....I'm trying to roll with this.....and expect less right now....from even the most sensible friends. Tell your experience with your own, or other's behaviors....esp. if they aren't being logical from one moment to the next. I'd really like to hear!