My therapist encouraged me to get back into online dating sites and into dating again. We set goals to engage it all for 10 minutes a day and so on... it was really hard to get myself to do... and stick with it... Now, I’m in it, doing what we set as a goal, and my therapist said it’s all counterphobic for me to want to do it at all. She said it’s “endearing how counterphobic you are.” Then she said I’m the biggest counterphob she’s ever met. What? I mean yeah, I’m a little counterphobic, maybe a lot, but my single friends on dating websites are usually doing so much more than me at the moment. How is even this being counterphobic? Why does even this have to be pathologized?! I thought it was just me dealing with my stuff and getting back into normal life, and I was feeling proud of it. I’m not even get going on dates yet... been asked, and I’m just not there yet for some odd reason. And yet. My therapist calls it counterphobic I am on online dating sites. Like great now even THIS is a sign of something wrong with me?! She encouraged it! This therapy isn’t working. It feels either like a set up or being dismissed again and again. She isn’t actually trying to set me up or be dismissive, but what the heck?!