Functional And Not Abusive? Requirements For A Partner

[Deleted member 28403]

I recently realized that for some reason while I was in my previous relationship, I was sorta being extra rejecting towards people who aren't all that interested in science. To state simply, I was being sorta judging, and I do not like that.

I've been thinking, maybe push back down a little to functional and not abusive relationship as main requirements, because I do not feel I will necesarily get too far by limiting myself for no realistic reason.

Anyone else noticing similar patterns happening and any advice on what to actually do?

I am right now in another relationship, for about a week, and really happy :) With a person that is more oriented towards literature and psychology than towards natural sciences... And interstingly, there is no inner fight within me about that, so I cannot understand fully why I was thinking that way before.

What would be your requirements for a partner? How would you choose a person?

And advice for me?

 

[Lionheart]

Non-toxic, healthy, open-minded, kind, thoughtful, respectful, and caring would be some of the qualities I would seek in a partner. A balance of common likes, dislikes, and interests,....both same and different.

Intelligence is good and looks are not as important as any of the aforementioned qualities, at least not to me.

 

[EveHarrington]

Try to be open minded and accept people as they are with qualities that may be very different from yours. I don't believe that complete opposites attract for lasting bonds (there's gotta be some sort of glue to hold things together, right?) Someone who is a little different may bring a new dimension to your life :)

 

[Deleted member 33052]

I look for someone who is strong, emotionally. Someone who won't be pushed around. I need honesty and forthrightness (is that even a word?), intelligence, loyalty and curiosity. A love of nature is a bonus, as are good looks.

 

[Deleted member 33052]

Advice for you, sael? Trust your instincts, and if she feels like the right one, give yourself wholeheartedly. :)

 

[Deleted member 33052]

Oh, man, I just described myself!

 

[Deleted member 28403]

:hug:
Yes, trusting my instinct tells me sorta that.

And yea, regarding personality, quite similar to me, and unlike ex, honest and not a total compulsive liar.

Generally, a great person