I have recovering from PTSD now and I am I such a better head state but I still can be triggered. I know my partner gaslights me but it still confuses me and I also wonder if I gaslight too. Yesterday we had a better arguement, I went to sleep and he stayed up, when he came to bed he shut the door 1/3 shut it further. I got questioned on it straight away where I replied it wasn't shit properly, this is when he told me to open it to where he has put it, I replied with telling him I struggle to sleep with light and iv not been sleep well, admitting I was speaking with an annoyed tone. He then demanded I opened it back up, which I did, I also carries on telling him how it really annoys me that we have to have the door open when I told him I'm struggling. He repeatedly told me this is how we always have the door but we don't, it can be like it sometimes but it's often shut. I was annoyed with him and I let him know this, I felt he was being controlling and ignoring my feelings, he says he feels I was ignoring his feelings. After this we went back and forth and then he let loose telling me how I am crazy and have no control over my emotions, talking about my past with ptsd to convince me my reaction was not valid, he repeatedly insulted me and told me I was irrelevant. My confusion is during this I was saying to him I am annoyed but I have reason to be and that now he was taking it too far. After things had gone slightly quieter I turned to him to try and work things out by making jokes and saying we don't have to fall out I was annoyed but It was only a moment and I can get out of it ,but he just wanted me to admit I was in the wrong and the gaslighting continued telling me the whole weekend had been ruined.
Am I gaslighting by telling him that just because i goy annoyed doesn't mean we have to right off the whole weekend and I think that's an overreaction, I also tell him we can just get past things without having to get into a fu blown arguement,.sometimes we can just been annoyed at each other.
Any support welcome
Am I gaslighting by telling him that just because i goy annoyed doesn't mean we have to right off the whole weekend and I think that's an overreaction, I also tell him we can just get past things without having to get into a fu blown arguement,.sometimes we can just been annoyed at each other.
Any support welcome