Relationship Ghosted and confused

djam

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I started dating a wonderful man 2 yrs.ago. He is a veteran and told me he had PTSD and was medicated and the past 2 yrs have been great. 4 months ago he told me he stopped taking his meds because he was done with pharmaceuticals. He also has a couple of injuries. Communication between us was amazing and our connection was uncanny.
When I last saw him ( we live 3 hrs apart) i knew he was "off"..scattered all over the place. Said he didnt want me to move in and he needed time apart. I had not moved in just had clothes that I kept at his place for when I visited.
I took my belongings and explained to him that since he needed a "few weeks" alone that it was a good time for me to go through my stuff and weed out. He went with a friend out of town to help out. I saw him 4 days later and could tell he seemed to be himself and told me he went back on his meds. We had 3 great days together. He went back to his home and 2 days later told me that he was having a hard time because I took my personal belongings and it was a trigger. He said he was "jumpy" and frustrated with everything and didnt want me to come to see him and that he again needed time to figure things out. That was August and the last time we spoke. He texted 3 weeks later and ended our relationship..no reason..just didnt want to be in relationship.
Its been 4 months of his ghosting me

I have been so confused and mourning this relationship. I have reached out several times and met with silence. I joined this forum to gleen insight. I realize I set off a trigger in him. He definitely is a protector. He is such a kind and compassionate man and I truly am at a loss. I thought we had a future. We never argued but were always able to talk through issues.
I am thankful for this forum and am educating myself because I deeply love this man but dont feel I can trust my heart with him as this ghosting has been pure hell.
Thanks for " listening:
 

Sweetpea76

Moderator
I’m sorry you had to go through this. Besides the broken heart, it is very confusing.

I realize I set off a trigger in him

You didn’t trigger him. He was triggered. Don’t take on any responsibility for that.

I deeply love this man but dont feel I can trust my heart with him as this ghosting has been pure hell.

It’s awesome you were able to make that peace with yourself. It takes people years to get to that point, if they ever do!
 

djam

New Here
I’m sorry you had to go through this. Besides the broken heart, it is very confusing.



You didn’t trigger him. He was triggered. Don’t take on any responsibility for that.



It’s awesome you were able to make that peace with yourself. It takes people years to get to that point, if they ever do!
It's a daily battle trust me. I love and miss him so much
 
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Makeupqueen316

I started dating a wonderful man 2 yrs.ago. He is a veteran and told me he had PTSD and was medicated and the past 2 yrs have been great. 4 months ago he told me he stopped taking his meds because he was done with pharmaceuticals. He also has a couple of injuries. Communication between us was amazing and our connection was uncanny.
When I last saw him ( we live 3 hrs apart) i knew he was "off"..scattered all over the place. Said he didnt want me to move in and he needed time apart. I had not moved in just had clothes that I kept at his place for when I visited.
I took my belongings and explained to him that since he needed a "few weeks" alone that it was a good time for me to go through my stuff and weed out. He went with a friend out of town to help out. I saw him 4 days later and could tell he seemed to be himself and told me he went back on his meds. We had 3 great days together. He went back to his home and 2 days later told me that he was having a hard time because I took my personal belongings and it was a trigger. He said he was "jumpy" and frustrated with everything and didnt want me to come to see him and that he again needed time to figure things out. That was August and the last time we spoke. He texted 3 weeks later and ended our relationship..no reason..just didnt want to be in relationship.
Its been 4 months of his ghosting me

I have been so confused and mourning this relationship. I have reached out several times and met with silence. I joined this forum to gleen insight. I realize I set off a trigger in him. He definitely is a protector. He is such a kind and compassionate man and I truly am at a loss. I thought we had a future. We never argued but were always able to talk through issues.
I am thankful for this forum and am educating myself because I deeply love this man but dont feel I can trust my heart with him as this ghosting has been pure hell.
Thanks for " listening:
I’ve been there love. The exact same thing happened to me. I wish I knew the answers, but I don’t. I guess we just learn to cope with it and try to understand them as best we can.
Mine ghosted me for 34 days, and although that doesn’t seem like long, it felt like months.
There was no reason for him to go mia, other than him switching meds, I noticed a change before he ever left. I saw it coming but it still sucked, it’s something you can’t really prepare for no matter how much you think so.
Fast forward through those 34 days, he reached out and we’re back together. I’m not sure how I feel about it, considering I’m scared he will wake up one day and not want this anymore. It’s terrifying. But I guess I love him enough to take the chance. Everything has seemed to be going really really good and I pray it stays that way.
I’m not sure what our future holds, but I’m taking it one day at a time, as I’m sure he is as well. That’s all we can do.
Just love them, even if that means having to do it from a distance sometimes.
It’s a relief to hear that other people go through the same hardships, so remember that you’re not alone and I’m so glad you joined in here 🖤
 

djam

New Here
I’ve been there love. The exact same thing happened to me. I wish I knew the answers, but I don’t. I guess we just learn to cope with it and try to understand them as best we can.
Mine ghosted me for 34 days, and although that doesn’t seem like long, it felt like months.
There was no reason for him to go mia, other than him switching meds, I noticed a change before he ever left. I saw it coming but it still sucked, it’s something you can’t really prepare for no matter how much you think so.
Fast forward through those 34 days, he reached out and we’re back together. I’m not sure how I feel about it, considering I’m scared he will wake up one day and not want this anymore. It’s terrifying. But I guess I love him enough to take the chance. Everything has seemed to be going really really good and I pray it stays that way.
I’m not sure what our future holds, but I’m taking it one day at a time, as I’m sure he is as well. That’s all we can do.
Just love them, even if that means having to do it from a distance sometimes.
It’s a relief to hear that other people go through the same hardships, so remember that you’re not alone and I’m so glad you joined in here 🖤
Thank you! Its been 5 months and pure silence from him. All I can do is pray for him. I am trying to move forward one day at a time. This site has been helpful and the support is wonderful. I wish you all the best
 
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