Hello all,
I am new to the forum and am just dealing with some stuff. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 8 months now. I love her. But I had only had sex with one other person before her (I'm 23) and she has had many, many more partners. She has shared her sexual stories and they have mostly just made me almost grossed out.
I find myself suddenly thinking about some of her stories while we're cuddling and just need to distance myself. The worst one is about her going to and from a party three times. Picking up a new guy each time.
We had a really bad fight recently about all of this and she mentioned rape. She told me that her sexual promiscuity was a coping mechanism for her. That after she had lost all of her power and had sex used against her, she decided to have tons of meaningless sex as a way to give herself the power, and to make sex less meaningful overall. That in upping her count of sexual partners, the rape would be a less significant portion.
Now I don't know how to feel and ultimately I feel like I have not handled any of this well.
Any comments?
Thank you
Byul
I am new to the forum and am just dealing with some stuff. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 8 months now. I love her. But I had only had sex with one other person before her (I'm 23) and she has had many, many more partners. She has shared her sexual stories and they have mostly just made me almost grossed out.
I find myself suddenly thinking about some of her stories while we're cuddling and just need to distance myself. The worst one is about her going to and from a party three times. Picking up a new guy each time.
We had a really bad fight recently about all of this and she mentioned rape. She told me that her sexual promiscuity was a coping mechanism for her. That after she had lost all of her power and had sex used against her, she decided to have tons of meaningless sex as a way to give herself the power, and to make sex less meaningful overall. That in upping her count of sexual partners, the rape would be a less significant portion.
Now I don't know how to feel and ultimately I feel like I have not handled any of this well.
Any comments?
Thank you
Byul