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Message: <blockquote data-quote="CoolBreezeonahotday" data-source="post: 1788844" data-attributes="member: 1418">I did it when I didn't know it was a 'thing'- just 'me' and seemed relevant/ the right thing to do. It was never malicious. (And this is different from no contact, e.g. toxic family. I kind of laughed yesterday- I heard it suggested to phone family we are seperated from- reminded me of one of the last calls in person with one member I remember was her telling  me she had paid for a hitman for 2 of us, or another where it was time to give our other palliative sister "a push to the other side.." .. Think I'll text!!!  )I don't see it really as relevant in this case: there is either communication why you no longer want to be friends, and some reconciliation or not, or to discuss or clear the air, or you are so little friends it doesn't matter/ acquaintances.  I would expect if it mattered the other person would contact you eventually, or keep some contact. If not, you're just going seperate ways.Some is maybe just manners, or closure, or maturity, or importance (of the person). But all relationships are 2-way, anyway. Might be important to you and not at all to them, too. To me, if a person (including family) doesn't put in any effort or does not contact me I am not of value, use or priority to them. In what you described I do think they probably wouldn't even have an inkling why you disappeared. But also doesn't sound like the same affinity/ values for developing a future friendship.I am too hypervigilant and more relate to [USER=21843]@arfie[/USER] . But I also don't want to 'be' an as*hole.Not sure if that's helpful at all, if not just disregard. Good luck with it.</blockquote>

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